august 18,2000
Portland Gay Man's Chorus is open to singers,
support members and volunteers. (5 03-460-3689
www pdxgmc.org.) (11 /00)
The Real Connection is a social gathenng for gay
men who are artists, wnters or musicians or who pursue
some creative activity Monthly potlucks on the second
Fnday (Todd 503-236-5763 ) a 1 /00)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a concert band
open to lesbian, gay. bi, trans and supportive musicians
and fnends. (PO Box 1082. Portland. OR 97207
503- 790-2170. community oregonlive com /cc/rcgfb.)
( 11 / 00 )
Metro: General
Bisexual Community Forum is an age and gender
inclusive social, support and education network founded
in 1980. Activities include dances, potlucks. field tnps
and a polyamory interest group. Meetings are held on
the first and third Mondays. (7 3 0 pm at M o p 's Coffee
Den. 2853 SE Stark St. Laury 503-285-4848 ) ( 1 1/00)
Brother to Brother is a family of Afncan Amencan
gay and bisexual men dedicated to the empowerment of
and improvement in the quality of life within our commu
nity. Board meetings every third Monday of the month at
5:30 pm. (Bnan. PO Box 3182. Portland. OR 97208.
503-417-7991.) (W 0 0 )
Cocksure is a social group for female-bom, gender
vanant people including FTMs, transguys, genderqueers
and significant others We are based in Portland and
welcome folks from Oregon and Washington. For more
info about our monthly meetings and e-mail network, call
503-471-1515. (11/00)
Dipstick Lesbians and Dykes with Hot Rods
invite women with cool cars to go cruisin' with them.
1503-284-5546.) (11/00)
FRIENDS is a weekly support and discussion group
for Afncan Amencan gay and bisexual men that meets
Wednesdays 5 to 7 pm. (Bnan. 503-287-865 f.) ( 1 1/00)
Funny Ladies Tea and Posy Society is a social
group for lesbians 35 and older, singles or couples.
They meet for a potluck on the third Saturday of each
month and take camping tnps during the summer.
Monthly newsletter is $9 a year. (503-232-9714.)
( 1 1 / 00 )
Gentle Giants of Oregon is a group dedicated to
providing an accepting social environment for chubby
men and the men who like them that way.
(503-241-4535 o r wvm chubnet.net/gentleaiants.)
( 11 / 00 )
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is a
nonprofit social organization dedicated to raising money
for chanties within the gay. lesbian, bisexual and trans
community. ISRC Event Hotline lists upcoming events.
(503-306-0700. ISRC@aol.com.
www geocities com /W estH ollyw ood/H elghts/7887 )
( 11 / 00 )
Jewish Gay Men's Group— call for meeting time
and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol com .) (11/00)
An informal Leather Night and Red Hanky Social
are held the first and third Fnday of each month. (9 pm-
midnight at the D irty Duck Tavern. 439 NW Third Ave
503-224-8446. PDXSaltyDg@aol.com) (11/00)
Lesbians Enjoying the Sciences is a fun-loving
group of women who en|oy explonng all aspects of the
environment. Activities include bird watching, nature
walks, archaeology, rock collecting, camping, kayaking,
star gazing, an occasional "lecture" and a monthly plan
ning potluck. No expenence necessary (6 45-830 pm
second Thursday planning meeting 503-289-3605 or
503-466-0058 or e-mail to lespnw@aol c o m .H I 1 /00)
Metro: Physical Recreation
Lesbian social group for women 50 and older
The Adventure Group. Portland's gay and lesbian
meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm.
503-642-3360. 503-331-0415.) (11/00)
Long Yang Club— Portland Chapter a social
group for Asian gays and lesbians and their fnends,
meets at 8 pm on the first Wednesday and third Sunday
of each month at 3 Friends Coffeehouse
(503-963-1841.) (11/00)
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Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self-
identifying women who are into SM. Ray parties are
held on the second Saturday of the month. (lululist@hot-
mail. com, www spiretech com /-aw ntie/lulu htm
503-231-3992.) (11/00)
Mount Hood Womyn network professionally and
socially. (503- 701 8302 ) (11/00)
Northwest Gender Alliance is a social and support
organization for cross-dressers and transsexuals
Monthly open meetings and socials. (PO Box 4928,
Portland. OR 97208 503-646-2802
www teleport com /~nw ga) (11 /00)
Oregon Bears is a social group for bears and their
admirers. Newsletter, activities and monthly social gath-
enngs. (503-240-2813. www.oregonbears.org ) (11/00)
O RG AN (Oregon Regional Gay and Naked) is a
outdoors group, organizes a variety of activities and
social events including hiking, skiing, mountain biking,
camping and rafting. (503 452-5680. www adventure-
group org.) (\ MOD)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club the largest
motorcycle club for gay men and fnends in Western
Canada and the Pacific Northwest, plays host to day
runs and camping events (bcbiker@yahoo com,
www borderriders.org.) (\ 1 /00)
CLIPS-Cycling Lesbians in Portland meets twice
monthly for bicycle ndes. All ndmg levels welcome.
(503-254-6971 J ( 1 1/00)
FOREST Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate
for their skill and fitness level All skill levels welcome.
(503-286-5382 www odm.cc pdx edu/~gijm ) (11 /00)
Gal Pals is a new group for single lesbians. (For infor
mation visit www geocities com /RodeoDnve/
B0006204454/3346/GAL-PAL h tm l) (11 /00)
K-9 Club is a group of kindred folks and their dogs
who meet to hike and talk in Portland parks on the sec
ond Sunday of each month (503-285-2986 ) ( 1 1/00)
social club for gay men who enjoy being nude. Monthly
potlucks and events Guests are invited to attend two
events before deciding on membership (ORGAN. PO
Box 14174. Portland. OR 97293-0 /7 4 J Í1 1/00)
Lesbian Equestrian Group Do you have a horse7
Looking to get together with womyn and horses for
equestnan activities in the Pacific Northwest? (Denise
503 654 3865. Lynn 503-777-2339, e-mail
kelrav@rdrop.com.) (11 /00)
Portland Bisexual Alliance plays host to social and
political events for bisexual and bi-fnendly people, orga
nizes Portland Bi Day rally and publishes calendar of
events Mixed-gender discussion groups are held 7 pm
on the first and third Fndays of the month at Laughing
Horse Books, 3652 SE Division St. (503-775-9717,
pba@biportland.org. www.biportland org.) (11/00)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
Please call or e-mail for a current copy of the newsletter
and information about upcoming events. (Kathe
503-909-2002. e-mail LGCOregon@aol.com.) (11/00)
Portland Leather Alliance is a pansexual. not-for-
profit organization dedicated to fostenng a positive com
munity for safe, sane and consensual alternative adult
sexualities in general and S/M/leather/fetish in particu
lar. (503-727-3148 www.pdxleatheralliance.org)
( 11 / 00 )
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
men. (PO Box 5884. Portland. OR 97228.
503-244-7550 or 360-254-1718.
pdxpnmetimers@yahoo.com .) (11 /00)
PSU Queers and Allies offer educational and social
programming and support and referral services for peo
ple of all onentations and colors. Everyone is invited to
participate in activities and meetings. (441A Smith
Memonal Center. Portland State University campus
E-mail: queersandallies@mailpdx edu.
www ess.pdx. edu/sfcsg/queersandallies.
503-7255681.) (11/00)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan-
sexual club in the Northwest, is open to all onentations.
fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensu
al. Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter.
(503-972-1869. rcdc@ teleport.com.
w w w teleport.com /~rcdc.) (11/00)
Out Dancing teaches partner dancing for same-sex
couples at Sally Mack's School of Dance. Classes for
different dance styles start the first Fnday of each
month. (503-236-512 9 .)( 11/00)
Portland Gay and Lesbian Community
Bowling Association meets Sundays at 4 pm at
Hollywood Lanes. 40th Avenue and Halsey Street. (PO
Box 80002. Portland. OR 97280-1002. 503-293-0438.
BOWLpdx@aol com.
members aol. com/BOW Lpdx/pcba html.) (11 /00)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream, plus and
advanced levels. (PO Box 5352. Portland. OR
97228-5352. 503-234-9944.
www. rdrop. com/users/ramblers. 7(11 /00)
Team Portland Tennis Association plays every
Sunday 8 am-noon at the University of Portland. Women
and men players of all skill levels are welcome. (Alex
Godinez 503-282-7210.) (W 0 0 )
Team Quest the athletic and exercise program of
Project Quest, offers individual, group, indoor and out
door physical recreation opportunities for people living
with HIV and AIDS (503-493-0288.) (11/00)
Together Works, a confidential group for lesbians,
gays, bisexuals and friends, meets for socials and dis
cussions of topics of mutual interest Meets second and
fourth Mondays. (7:30 pm May-September, 7 pm
October-Apnl. First Baptist Church. 125 SE Cowls St..
McMinnville. Don 503-434-6266) ( 11/00)
Join the Rosetown Ramblers for their skating party Aug. 28 at Oaks Park
Southern Oregon: Social
Abdill-Eliis Lambda Community Center plays host
to social events and groups. Call for schedule (Mailing
address PO Box 927 Ashland. OR 97520. Location:
281 Fourth S t. Ashland. OR 97520. 541-488-6990. lamb-
dacntr@ao! com. www ae tca o rg ) (11/00)
D ear M s .
some were gay
B ehavior :
women. I always
On a recent trip
seem to attract mar
to Provincetown, I
ried women looking
ran— literally— into
to experiment.
a delicate sexual eti
I am attracted to
quette problem.
femme women, and
W hile walking my
the married ones are
dog Hoover off- leash
very forward. But 1
in the evening on the
don’t go there,
beach at a cruisy area
because I’ve been
known as the “dick
there and done that
dock” (I’m a les
already.
bian and wasn’t in
I haven’t been
search of dick), she
in a serious rela
ran off and starting
tionship for almost
licking and jump
seven years, pri
What to do when Fido marily by choice.
ing on two men
engaged in a sexu
fetches fellating fellows I’ve been focusing
on my future with
al act. I stood
about 10 yards
school, and with
away, unsure what to do.
working full time and being in the
Reserve, that doesn’t leave much
1 felt too embarrassed to call
time for a social schedule.
Hoover, so I just stood in the shad
ows and waited until they were done.
Making myself available in the
This took about 15 minutes, which 1
“scene” is the obvious answer. So
thought was a long time, but I guess
are ads, but I’ve pretty much out
a leaping dog is a bit o f a distraction.
grown just looking tor sex.
I’m a sex-positive lesbian with
Anyway, I’m extremely proud o f
no judgment about public sex, but I
who I’ve become and honest with
also don’t feel it deserves any partic
whomever I’m with, so I’m not
ular reverence on my part. Silently
pushing fate. I just want someone
waiting until those men were fin
else to talk to once in a while
ished made me feel disempowered,
besides my two Chihuahuas.
so I don’t want to do that again.
P.S. W hen are you going to
write another book?
I don’t intend to stop walking
my dog at the beautiful moonlit
— L., the Lonely Cop
beach, and I don’t want to put her
on a leash because she rarely gets to
D ear L., the L onely C o p :
run free, so I need to know what to
Ms. Behavior notices you
do in the future. How polite should
haven’t exactly asked a question,
I be when she encounters or inter
but you need advice anyway: Get
rupts men having sex?
over yourself and your busy sched
Should I call my dog loudly and
ule and get yourself a girlfriend.
hope she feels like obeying? O r
Your letter is practically a per
should I walk unabashedly up to the
sonal ad. Just pare it down, pay a
fellating men, say “excuse me” and
few bucks and run it in a local
retrieve her?
queer newspaper.
— K.
It’s true that uniformed dykes run
the risk o f attracting straight women,
D ear K.:
probably because o f sexual fantasy
Th e beach is a public place, and
and a certain butch confidence, not
you don’t seem like a dyke who’d go
to mention lack o f the “ Is she or
blind at the sight o f a penis, so feel
isn’t she.7” doubt that might surround
free to walk right up to your leaping
less obvious prospects, like lesbians
dog and the men who happen to be
in the helping professions who wear
the object o f her attention. C on
loose, linen skirts, big earrings and
versation probably isn’t necessary,
girlie shoes.
and you seem polite enough not to
But you also need to accept
demand others speak to you with
some responsibility yourself. Like, if
their mouths full.
you hadn’t been feeling ambivalent
You also might consider a sim
about love, wouldn’t you have
ple, less interactive approach: Just
attracted some actual lesbians by
stay where you are and yell,
now, too?
“ Hoover, come!” O f course, yelling
Ms. Behavior doesn’t doubt
a demand to come while people are
you’d like to have a girlfriend. But
having sex can go either way.
in a deeper, maybe unconscious
It either could help bring the act
way, you might be scared.
to completion, or it could wilt their
Before you get defensive, think
attention. Either way, you probably
about some o f the obstacles to love,
would get your dog back quickly.
like fear o f getting literally or meta
phorically naked or o f getting hurt.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
You sound lovely, and it would be
I am a 37-year-old police officer,
nice for you to share your life with
and I’m in better shape than 1 was
someone other than your dogs.
10 years ago. I have a great sense o f
P.S. Ms. Behavior is working on
humor, and I’m a very positive, out
another book, possibly two. Don’t
going person— difficult features to '
pressure her or she’ll implode.
maintain in my profession.
The problem is I get hit on—
■ Write your confused and conflicted
more than the guys I work with—
heart out to Ms. B ehavior at
by straight women, and I just wish
Ms Bchavior@aol. com .
Doggy style
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