lust entertainment Lesbian sex: not a contradiction in terms Loularis humor was provocative and she provided more than a little education MÈTRO HAIR DESIGN IÜJ 234-1276 2 0 0 8 N.E. SANDY BLVD. • PO RTLAN D Please Si thank you aren’t th e only magic words: When supporting our advertisers mention Ju st Out. BY S A N D R A DE HE L E N oann Loulan brought over 700 women to their feet at the climax of an arousing, humorous, and moving two hour performance at the Northwest Service Center. Loulan bills her evenings with audiences as ‘ “An Evening of Provocative Comedy and Lesbian Sex Educa tion." Judging from the audience's response, both have been sorely needed in this community. Loulan discussed issues so personal that most women have never mentioned them aloud — much less to an audience of 700! She also demonstrated safe sex, to the delight of the audience, as well as the volunteer from the crowd. She used her newly created terms, LIP, MIP, and HIP to describe the various stages of love relationships, beginning with the Lesbian Insanity Period, followed by the Moving In Period, and finishing with the Healing In Period. Throughout the evening she brought tears to women’s eyes with her descriptions of the hurt ful experiences brought on by homophobia, and helped the audience to heal the hurt by facing internalized oppression head-on. She told of her J The OREGON GAY DATING LINE 1 976-6366 - new ads daily own experience of coming out to the people at her bus stop when she was selected to appear on the Oprah Winfrey show. To her surprise, her new neighbors were not only accepting of her, but have become fast friends. She feels that lesbians are the most invisible members of our society, and the only way this will change is by purposely becoming more visible. She encouraged women to take their love to the streets, making public affection so common that people no longer take offense. Her research shows that lesbian couples experience a sharp drop in frequency of sex after the first year (respondents were white women from 30-45 years of age), again after the second year, and by the end of the third year sex has become rare. At the same time, respondents reported they were satisfied with their sex lives. Loulan believes this infrequency of sex is due to internalized oppression, and that women should enjoy fuller sex lives as a matter of course. While 38 percent of her respondents reported they had been sexually molested before the age o f 18, this is the same percentage reported in the heterosexual population, and no reason not to enjoy lesbian sex. Her theory that adults use their internal teen Jane Rule slates Portland appearance ward winning Canadian author, Jane Rule will speak in Portland on Saturday, January 28, at 7:30 pm. Rule will appear in the Linfield College auditorium at the Good Samaritan Complex. 2255 NW Northrup. Portland. A agers to protect their internal children was both amusing and poignant. She encouraged women to stop making each other wrong, to stop trying so hard to prove ourselves right, and to just love each other with all our faults and foibles. She also suggested we try a little harder to meet the other woman’s expectations (as in putting albums back in their covers after use, and clean ing hair out of the sink). Loulan’s humor was, indeed, provocative and she provided more than a little education on the topic of lesbian sex. She attempted to include all women of all colors, ages, and physical abilities, and slipped only a bit in her portrayal of Portland teenagers. Her use of the term "neurosurgical haircuts" showed clearly on which side of the generation gap she stands Otherwise, her performance was flawless. • Rule is most noted for her book Desert o f the Heart, which became the 1987 hit movie Desert Hearts. The author of many well loved novels, she has received many literary awards and has contributed to many journals, including Redbook. San Francisco Review, Housewife, and Queen s Quarterly. Appearing at the request of the Westside Organization of Women and Linfield College, Rule’s appearance is a benefit for the Lesbian Community Project. Tickets for the program are available at A Woman’s Place Bookstore and Catbird Seat Books. S 10.00 donation. Writer gets residency College and sponsored by the owner of Walden Farm. andra de Helen has received the Walden Sandra received the award based on a chapter Farm writer’s residency award for 1989. from her novel, a story of a young girl growing She will spend six weeks in a cabin on Walden up in the midwest in the 50s, whose spirit Farm in southern Oregon beginning January 15 triumphs in spite of her brushes with the darker to complete a rough draft of her current novel. side o f life. The program is administered through the North Judges for the award were Elizabeth Udall, west Writing Institute at Lewis and Clark Dean Eng, and Norman Rush. m S .75 FIRST MINUTE .55 EACH A D D ! MINUTE C all 24 hrs. Â3 < Oi 2 K J I 1 Personal telephone ads for d a tin g , friendship and rom ance. TWENTY-THIRD AVENUE BOOKS 1015 NW 2 3rd Avenue, Portland, Oregon 97210, (503) 224-5097 1 ....... — ■■ " ■■ ■ ■ — —— — ——— — Monday-Thursday 9.30-6 pm B Friday Open Till 9 pm B Saturday 10 am-5 pm B Sunday 11 am-4 pm just out • 20 • January 1989