October, 1880.
THE WEST SHORE.
75
CORNELIA.
After monthi o( earnest and somewhat thor
ough research w have amassed a turprising
amount of facts, whioh prove beyond all possi
ble doubt: First, that philanthropio endeavor
on the part of woman render her more loyal
and helpful in her own home; and, second, that
almost every woman who has achieved national
or world-wide fame as a true mother has not
uvea aseciuaea, domeatio life.
I make this assertion now without th Kohl.
est reservation, because I have a wealth of evi-
uenoe, in well authenticated faots.
Passius bv hundreds of illuntrinna mJi
let me call your attention to the model mother
the pet of masculine orators, the typical woman,
the great model ever set before the imagination
of girl-graduates Cornelia, the mother of the
uraocni.
Now, tell me. mv tood centlaman frinnil.
honest confession, now didn't you suppose
th.t nA..u. .... - 1. 1 1 1 1 ( r .
.. vaiiuoiim Wm iwnt iiousouoia uiviuity,
somewhat majestio to be sure, i but. nevertheless.
woman with no thought of a mission other
than to her own ohildren.
Well, then, remember that Cornelia,- the
motner 01 tne uraocni, was a thoroughly edu
cated, philanthropio, strong-minded, eloquent
woman, who gavemiblio lectures on nhiloaonhv
in Rome, and was even more fortunate in her
disciples than in her sons. Cicero says: "Cor
nelia, had she not been a woman, would have
deserved the first place among philosophers."
We say bad she not been a wise philosopher she
oould not have been so royal a mothor. It re
quires a rare combination of intellect and heart
to be a wise mother.
Mrs. Hale, in her carefully prepared bio
graphical sketch of Cornelia, says! "The
whole life of Cornelia presents a beautiful char
acter;" and, from the facts which are in our
possession, we draw these inferences:
1. Cornelia must have been educated in a
very superior manner by her father, for in no
other manner can we account for her knowledge
and love of literature; nor, for the fact, that
wnue yet young she was regarded as worthy the
mm virtuou ana nooie men 01 iiome.
2. She must have been from the beginning a
woman of fixed principles and undaunted oour-
age; lor in no other manner can we give a solu
tion to her rejection of the King of Egypt, her
nnremitting care of her family, the high educa
tion of her sons, and the great influence she
held over them.
8. She must have cultivated literature and the
graoes of conversation, for how else could she
nave attracted to her noma the men of letters,
and won the oompliments of distant prinoes.
It is the same like causes produce like re
sults everywhere. Earnest study and loving
DhilanthroDhv enriches the heart of the mnthar.
and blessee first and enriches most the home
hnne, and thenoe overflows until it brightens
and blesses the weary home-sick world.
Give us more mothers prepared to instruct the
world in the true philosophy of life, and we will
have more sons to be numbered with philoso
phers. It was a grand inscription worthy the aspira
tion of every mother: Cornelia the mother of
the Qraoohi! But one can scarcely imagine one
of those "Oraoohi" boys commanding his mother
to "keep silent" on any question of church or
state, Mrt. aarbert ui inler-wtan.
Tm Mind. There is no sculptor like the
mind. There is nothing that so refines, pol
ishes, and ennobles taoe and mien as the ooo
tant preeenoe of great thoughts. The man who
lives in the region of ideas, moonbeams though
they be, becomes idealized. There are no arts,
no gymnastics, do cot me tine which oan oootri
but a tithe so mnoh to the dignity, the strength,
the ennobling of man's look as a great purpose,
high determination, a noble principle and un
quenchable enthusiasm. But more powerful
still than any of those aa a beautifier of the per
eon is the overmastering parpoee and prevailing
disposition of kindness m the heart
HOW TO SELECT A HUSBAND.
It has been profoundly remarked that the
true way of telling a toadstool from a mush
room is to eat It If yon die, it was a toad
stool ; if you live, it was a mushroom. A simi.
lar method is employed in the selection of hus
bands : marry him, it he kills yon he was a bad
husband ; if he makes you happy he is a good
ono. There is really no othor criterion. Some
young men that seem unexceptionable, indeed
very desirable, when they are single, are per
fectly horrid as soon aa they are married. All
the latent brute there is in the heart oomes out
as soon as a sensitive and dolioate being seeks
her happiness in his companionship. The
honeymoon lssts a very short time, the reoep.
tione and the rounds of parties are soon over,
and then the two set down to make home hap.
py. If she has married a society man, he will
soon begin to get bored he will yawn and go
to sleep on the sofa. Then he will tike hia hat
and go down to the olub, and aee the boys, and
iraiunpi not coins Dome until morning, if she
has married a man engrossed in business ha
will be fagged out when he oomes home. He
may be a sickly man that ah must nurse, a
morose man met ana must seek to cheer, a
drunken man that she must sit np for, a vio
lent man that she fears, a fool whom she soon
learns to despise, a vulgar man for whom shs
must apologise in short there are thousands of
ways of being bad husbands and vory few ways
of being good ones. And the worst of It is,
that the poor silly women are apt to admire In
ungie men tne very traits mat make bad hus
bands, and look with contempt or ridioule upon
those quiet virtues which make home haunv.
Meu with very little personal beauty or style
often make the wife happy and sometimes
quite the reverse. The number of ways of
oeing a oau nusoana is almost aa great as the
number of ways of being ugly. No one can tell
from the demeanor of a single men what sort of
a husbaud he will be. However, she must
marry somebody,
Honoring) Mrs. Haym. Now thst Mrs.
Haye is on this coast, and many of our people
are making her acquaiutanoe. they will be inter
ested in knowing what they are proposing to do
f- L . .1 L 4 Tl IT.: r 1 1 , ?
iur uor kuv nHh Aiiv mica iirraia says
Miss Either Pugh, "the staunch Quaker Trass.
urer of the Hayes Fund Commission," at 64
Bible House, New York oity, will receive con
tributions for a "temperano testimonial to
Mrs. Preaidont Hsyes for the noble stand she
haa taken for total abstinence while hostess of
the White House.'' This testimonial is to take
the shape of "a lifs-size portrait of Mrs. Hayes,
to be painted by one of our beet artiste,1' and
whsn finished to be Disced in the Whit House.
Every 13 subsoribsr will have an engraving of
tne portrait, anu it u expeotea mat the sub
scription will be so large that enough will be
left over to eerv as the nucleus of a fund
named "the Have fund," to be employed in
circulating total abetinenoa literature. Miss
trances K. WHIsrd la president of the commis
sion, and Felix It, Brunot, Mrs. Joseph Cook,
nianon Bimueon, uianop j agger. Mrs. Uov.
Fairbanks, Neal Dow and Uov. Ht John, of
nana, are among the member of the Hayes
4- 1 UV. IWIUU.
Tn Wany llnaiia la ln tl. ft.. -I- .1
New York, sayst "I oan not honor too highly
the industrious mechanic, patiently naiug bis
hammer or his wheeL If he only sews a welt
or planes a knot, be help to build up the solid
lyramm 01 tn world welfare. There I no
aount 01 ni noniiiiy over those who oompoee
the feathery foam of fashion that sweeps along
Broadway, who consider the insignia of honor
to oonsist in wealth and idlaoeee, and who ignore
the family history by painting a coat of arms to
oover op the leathern apron of their grand-father.'
Quiur Victoria ha declared war on banes.
Tims they ware killed before.
wKnmvo outfits,
What an absurd idea it Is that when a girl
gets married she must have an enormous ward
robe, downs of stockings, handkarchief and
gloves, and bale of underclothing, the greater
part of whioh will be yellow and out of style be
fore she can us it This great preparation im
plies that the girl has uever had auything
uouem hj wear ueiore, or mat ana iloee uol ex
pect over to got anything of the sort from her
husband, depending on him only for her food
and shelter.
It is th ouatom and a very lamentable on
for the parents to supply the daughter's trous
seau on her marriage, without any referenoe to
her future condition in life, but in auoordanoe
with her own wishes, or the extent of her
mother's desir to mske a show. Many a bride
haa had her trunks tilled with Ane olothee and
costly jowelry, but not a dollar she oould call
her own.
It is well to provide a girl with a good outfit,
but it should be a suitable one, that will be of
use to ner in in luture as well a in the pres
ent Piles of undorolotlilng are as unneonsaary
u a great number of dreasiia, for while the lat
ter go out of fashion, the fnrmor grow yellow
and rotten. A friend of mine, who has been
married 25 years, tolls ma that ahe is still wear,
ing th whits skirts made for her trousseau.
She had '.'8 of them, all elaborately trimmed,
and haa never felt able to eflord to give them
away and buy others, though th fashion in
akirta haa changed very materially sinos than,
and they are gored now. while at that time they
were made full, fuller, fullest
In her anxiety almut the solvation of her out.
fit, the styls and fabric of her dreeaee, the vari
ety and tineiieie of her underwear, the young
lady elraut to be married often weara herself
down to auoh a ooudition that ah la in no Ht
lUte to go through the trying ordeal of the wed
ding oeremony, th weariueea of th reception
which follow it as a ml, and th fatiguing
wedding tour. Only yeaterday a lady waa tell
ing me how ill her daughter was for weeks after
her marriage, and the doctor aaid it was In con.
arnuenoe of the manv hiinra aha I.--1 1... ..
I -" wi, vigf
her nseills "getting ready." Her mothor aald I
ubiv wmmivu tiian mac ane nail put fewer
tucka in bar white akirta, and leea milling and
amhmidarv on har rirauiiia umihu " A ,14
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sickness was needed to teach beroommon sens,
yon se.
A oousln of mine, who waa imtm-J In . ....i
oflioer. waa obliued. owina in hnkcln,.
away on a three-years' cruiss, to be married
-"" u4M ntivtpauia h sn
would not stay aingl for three year longer.
Hh bad but three week In whioh to make all
har bretiaratinna anil tin tima i t,ui n
1 - --, uir
mother, sister, a drsssmsker and herself War
ouay morally nay ami night sewing on th
troueeesn. The niiht bafora tha .,.if..i j.
ah faiuted three times while trvlnu m I...
numtroua dreeee for th hut time, to aee that
they were perfect in fit and draping. On her
marriage day. when ahe should have looked her
uriKiitm aim uaat, ane waa pale, wan, Weary
and hollow-eyed, and faiuted during ths loan
i.-.l r.-t k,..h '..n. .-.i a
Half adiixau of each artmlanf H.,t.M i.
amtilv aulllulant to atari tka krl.U f
I ( ' - Miutiarave
ciroumatanoee in her married life, with a travel
ing ureee in sue is to travel), a black eaehrner
for evening wear, a nrattv nuna .j 4
morning dreeaee. If all ciimwU to attend any
evening entartainmeutc alter her marriage, It is
wmu to prurma naneu wun a light silk or a
Swia mualio. This outfit is for th fall mar
rage. Home ebangec are neoeeaary If the briil
enter on her new III In th spring, and that
will suggest themselves. It is hardly necessary
to speak of glove, boo and band kerchief a, fur
thee are a matter of oour. It t reasonable
to SODDoaa that ths vouna liU tiu l .4 .
few articles of clothing already, which, being
tollable for bar siogls days, will not be oaauit-
uw ivv ner namw QO.-iertntt U, tttrm.
m iaerrinis Vutthator, "