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B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, AUGUST 30, 2022
Sexual abuse continues to haunt family members
DEAR ABBY: Fifteen years
ago, my husband’s sister told him
their brother “Brad” had molested
her when she was young. She had
repressed it until revealing it to a
therapist. Brad admitted doing it,
but said it was because a parish
priest showed him pornography.
Brad gave her money to pay for her
therapy.
My husband has pretty much
dismissed it and remains very
close to Brad. I have never been
able to look at Brad in the same
way, and I prefer to not be around
PETS
Continued from Page B1
Here’s how to keep your animal
companions cool in the heat and
how to spot signs of heatstroke,
according to local veterinarians.
1. Never leave your pet alone in
a parked vehicle.
On hot days, experts recommend
that you leave your dogs — or any
pet — at home.
Veterinarians say that in the
event that you have to bring your
pet along with you, you shouldn’t
leave them alone inside a vehicle
under any circumstances. Leaving
the air conditioner running,
cracking windows or only being
away for a few minutes aren’t suf-
fi cient protections as temperatures
can rapidly rise to dangerous levels
inside a vehicle.
him. My husband wants me to pre-
tend it’s in the past and let it go, but
I’m having trouble doing that. My
aversion to Brad has grown more
intense over the years. His sister
still has issues, and I believe they
stem from his abuse. I don’t know
what to do. Help, please. — COM-
PLICATED IN ILLINOIS
DEAR COMPLICATED:
It is probable that the priest who
showed Brad the pornography sex-
ually abused him, too. Brad has
tried to make amends by paying
for his sister’s therapy. (I wonder
if he had any himself.) I think you
should talk to your sister-in-law
about this, and take your cues from
her.
DEAR ABBY: I have a close
friend who was diagnosed with
skin cancer. She had surgery a few
days ago, and she will know within
the next two weeks if it is gone. I
am devastated. I don’t know what
to do, to say or how to act.
I check in several times a day
with her to ask what I can do. We
usually talk about everything, but
now she’s talking about death and
dying. My heart is broken and I
tear up when I think about it. I’d
like to tell her what I’m feeling and
how much I think of her but I don’t
know how. — LOST IN THE
EAST
DEAR LOST: If you feel
you can’t get out what you need
to communicate to your friend
without breaking down, put it
in a letter to her. Take your time
writing it, and when you’re done,
put it aside for a day or two, and
then reread it before sending or
giving it to her. It couldn’t do any
harm to let her know how much
you love and value her, the things
you most admire about her and
how important she is (not was)
in your life. If she lives decades
more, which I sincerely hope,
that love letter will be a treasured
keepsake.
DEAR ABBY: I am in my
late 60s. When I am approached
by people who know me, I can’t
remember them. It’s embarrassing
to ask them who they are. I may
have worked with them or met
them somehow, but although they
look familiar, I draw a blank. I
have spoken to several friends
who have the same problem.
I sometimes recognize people
I haven’t seen for a while and
have to remind them who I am.
What would be the polite way to
ask, “Who are you?” — DON’T
KNOW IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR DON’T KNOW: A
polite way to manage it would be
to be honest. Simply say, “For-
give me, but I think I’m having
a ‘senior moment.’ Where do we
know each other from?” It’s eff ec-
tive, and as you stated, you are not
the only one. It also happens to
people who are younger than you.
“It’s just not worth the risk to
their health and safety,” Haw-
kins says. “It can only take a few
moments with mild weather outside
for the car to reach unbearable tem-
peratures, much less the heat that
we’re experiencing right now.”
2. Limit exercise and outdoor
activity.
There’s a reason that many
humans opt to exercise in the
morning when it’s cooler outside
or in the evenings when the sun is
setting. This ideology should be
applied to your pets as well.
Experts say you should limit
exercise and outdoor activities,
such as walks and playing at the
dog park, to the coolest times of the
day. This is particularly important
for dog owners because asphalt can
quickly heat up. If a dog walks onto
a hot surface, it can severely burn
their paw pads.
“That can be very painful for
them because now they’re walking
around basically with large blisters
on their paws,” said Dr. Julio López,
a board-certifi ed specialist in veter-
inary internal medicine and owner
of Encino Veterinary Center. “So I
think it’s one of those things that we
as people don’t really think about
because we wear shoes.”
A common tip that veterinarians
tell pet parents is to test the ground
before taking them outside. You can
do this by placing the back of your
hand on the ground for about fi ve
seconds. If it feels too hot for you,
then it’s defi nitely too hot for your
pet. If your dog, for example, has
a history of getting burns on their
paw pads, you might want to con-
sider purchasing them dog booties
to use during walks.
It’s also critical to adjust the
intensity and duration of exer-
cise on hot days. “Stop frequently
to give them a rest because they’ll
try to keep up with you,” says
Pitts. “They’re very loyal [and]
they love us even though they’re
overheating.”
3. Provide ample water for
your pet at all times.
It’s always important to have
fresh water readily accessible for
your pet, but it’s especially vital on
hot days. Experts suggest having
multiple spill-proof bowls for your
pets and making sure they’re placed
in shady areas.
And if you’re taking your pet
outdoors, it’s wise to bring more
water than you think you need and
to make sure they get a drink before
you head out the door. Pet parents
can also consider purchasing col-
lapsible travel bowls, which often
have a clip, making them conve-
nient to carry.
4. Keep your dogs in cool,
shaded areas indoors or outdoors.
Whether your pet is inside or
outside — for a limited amount of
time — at your home, many veter-
inarians say it’s best to keep them
in cool, shaded areas. Owners of
rabbits, guinea pigs and other ani-
mals that are typically kept in cages
should also avoid placing cages in
direct sunlight. Also, hot air rises
so it’s best to place cages on a low
surface.
Placing a cold or frozen water
bottle in the cage can help keep pets
cool. If you don’t have an air condi-
tioning unit in your home, you can
use fans to keep air fl owing.
There’s an array of products,
like cooling mats and vests, that
pet owners can purchase to pro-
vide comfort for their pets, but
many experts say they aren’t
mandatory.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com
or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Astoria
Longview
58/70
Kennewick
61/86
St. Helens
64/91
TIllamook
69/95
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
Mainly clear
Sunshine and
very hot
Sunshine and
very hot
Very hot with
sunshine
Mostly sunny
and warm
50 97 50
93 49
97 54
90 49
5
4
8
96 52
99 57
89 54
4
3
8
Baker City
Comfort Index™
La Grande
4
56 99 54
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
4
3
3
57 96 53
67/101
66/91
60/91
Comfort Index™
3
96 57
89 52
4
3
6
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NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 117°
Low: 29°
Wettest: 3.52”
80°
42°
81°
43°
88°
41°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
0.00
0.26
0.39
4.73
6.38
0.00
0.24
0.61
9.22
11.27
0.00
0.45
0.60
18.21
15.83
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
15%
SW at 6 to 12 mph
12.1
0.28
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
4% of capacity
39% of capacity
17% of capacity
69% of capacity
3% of capacity
14% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
591 cfs
68 cfs
103 cfs
45 cfs
100 cfs
25 cfs
On Aug. 30, 1929, traveling at excessive
speed through dense fog without sound-
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rammed the coastal steamer San Juan. All
70 crewmen perished.
SUN & MOON
TUE.
WED.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
6:11 a.m. 6:13 a.m.
7:34 p.m. 7:32 p.m.
9:40 a.m. 10:51 a.m.
9:13 p.m. 9:34 p.m.
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Sep 3
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Sep 10
Last
Sep 17
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Sep 25
61/97
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60/102
Jordan Valley
62/98
Paisley
52/93
Frenchglen
59/99
Diamond
Klamath Falls
Hi/Lo/W
70/56/c
94/56/s
102/68/s
62/52/c
99/51/s
69/56/c
90/53/s
100/60/s
99/54/s
93/54/s
102/65/s
95/67/s
102/65/s
97/59/s
95/56/pc
101/65/s
91/48/s
93/46/s
Hi/Lo/W
71/57/pc
95/60/s
99/67/s
64/53/c
96/53/s
70/57/pc
90/56/s
98/56/s
94/55/s
93/56/s
100/59/s
98/67/s
98/66/s
97/61/s
91/60/s
99/58/s
93/50/s
94/52/s
48/93
McDermitt
56/99
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
102/68/s
86/59/s
98/50/s
100/62/s
64/54/c
88/54/s
102/68/s
101/63/s
98/66/s
91/61/s
78/58/pc
96/52/s
97/58/s
91/56/s
98/64/s
101/66/s
94/51/s
98/70/s
Hi/Lo/W
98/64/s
87/59/s
92/48/s
102/64/s
63/54/c
88/55/s
100/61/s
99/58/s
97/62/s
91/63/s
80/56/pc
97/54/s
94/59/s
92/57/s
94/62/s
102/65/s
91/53/s
97/66/s
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Sunny and warm
Sunshine and hot
78
49
Sunny and warm
Sunny and very hot
88
52
59
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Warm with sunshine
Hot with sunshine
84
46
92
48
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Partly sunny; hot
Sunny and hot
95
56
97
Very hot
97
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Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
57/102
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THU.
Grand View
Arock
59/98
57/98
65/100
WED.
Boise
68/102
Silver Lake
48/89
Medford
Brookings
Juntura
54/99
63/98
52/62
Ontario
64/102
Burns
49/95
Chiloquin
Medford
Meacham
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Brothers
46/88
Roseburg
60/78
OREGON
Huntington
56/95
55/92
Beaver Marsh
55/69
60/100
68/101
Seneca
58/94
Coos Bay
Death Valley, Calif.
Bodie State Park, Calif.
Atlantic City, N.J.
High: 92°
Low: 36°
Wettest: none
59/97
59/94
Oakridge
Council
50/97
Bend
Elkton
Powers
58/100
55/91
John Day
55/96
Sisters
H H H 58/96
H H H
57/93
Eugene
55/65
Halfway
Granite
Baker City
Redmond
54/64
SUNDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
Monument
61/100
57/90
Newport
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ALMANAC
56/99
59/88
59/91
Corvallis
Enterprise
La Grande
65/94
65/98
Idanha
Salem
58/87
92 55
Elgin
56/99
57/96
Condon
Maupin
TONIGHT
67/98
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
66/102
Hood River
64/98
57/74
Lewiston
Walla Walla
61/101
Vancouver
61/91
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