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B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, AUGUST 23, 2022
Struggling wife at wits’ end with her unhelpful hubby
eral times, but he hasn’t.
He claims to love me and to
want our marriage to thrive, yet
he does nothing. Now that the
intimacy is completely gone, he
all of a sudden wants to work on
things. Go fi gure. I feel hurt and
rejected and like throwing in the
towel, but we have built a life
together and I do love him. I don’t
think therapy will work because
I’ll feel like I manipulated him
to get there by withholding the
intimacy.
I feel sad and defeated. The
man I married is gone, replaced
by this person who is just going
through the motions and using me
to take care of his kids and clean
his house. Please advise. — ON
HOLD IN ARKANSAS
DEAR ON HOLD: Ask your
DEAR ABBY: My husband
and I have been together for 12
years and our relationship has
started to suff er. We no longer
have dates, we don’t spend any
time talking with each other
unless it’s about the kids, and the
intimacy has faded.
A year ago, I asked him to go
to a counselor with me. I asked
him to be the one to set it up, as
I’m always in charge of doctor
appointments, bill paying, etc. I
wanted him to show he was “all
in” to help fi x our marriage. I
have reminded him to do it sev-
doctor for a referral to a psycholo-
gist and make an appointment —
for yourself — for help rebuilding
your sagging self-esteem.
Because you long ago assumed
the role of organizer-arranger in
your marriage, it was unrealistic
to expect your husband to sud-
denly pick up the ball. He may not
know how. Once you are stronger
emotionally, schedule those ses-
sions with a licensed marriage
and family therapist, as you
have all the other appointments
during your marriage. Your rela-
tionship with your husband does
need work, and this is the path to
repairing it.
DEAR ABBY: My fi ance and
I have a child together. I’m 31, and
he’s 16 years older. Sometimes I
don’t know if our relationship will
every time she asks? Please help.
— ALL FOR MAMA
DEAR ALL: You wrote that
you are trying to save for your
family’s future. Is your fi ance
giving his mother money that you
have been earning, or is it his? If
it is his, he can do with it as he
pleases — at least until after the
wedding. If he is fi scally respon-
sible, he should also be trying to
save for the future. However, if
he isn’t, recognize that the pattern
he has established may not be a
sound one for you and your child,
and plan accordingly.
work out in the long run because
he’s so stubborn and set in his
ways. I’m more laid-back and
easygoing.
What is bothering me the most
right now is his mother constantly
asks him for money. It’s not just
for little things; it’s for roof and
furnace repair and problems with
her water heater, washer/dryer,
stove and A/C. She’s married, and
her husband works. He should be
able to provide her with the things
they need for their house.
It’s not like my fi ance is rich.
He isn’t. I have tried talking to
him about it, but it just ends up in
an explosive argument. It’s like,
why should I even try to save for
our family’s future and the things
we need for our house if he’s going
to keep giving it to his mother
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com
or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Leaning lighthouse could collapse
For their study published Wednesday,
Aug. 17, researchers used fossil evidence to
create a 3D model of the megalodon — one
of the biggest predatory fi sh of all time —
and fi nd clues about its life.
At around 50 feet from nose to tail, the
megalodon was bigger than a school bus,
according to the study in the journal Sci-
ence Advances. That’s about two to three
times the size of today’s great white shark.
The megalodon’s gaping jaw allowed it to
feed on other big creatures. Once it fi lled
its massive stomach, it could roam the
oceans for months at a time, the researchers
suggest.
The megalodon was a strong swimmer,
too: Its average cruising speed was faster
than sharks today and it could have
migrated across multiple oceans with ease,
they calculated.
“It would be a superpredator just domi-
nating its ecosystem,” said co-author John
Hutchinson, who studies the evolution of
animal movement at England’s Royal Vet-
erinary College. “There is nothing really
matching it.”
It’s been tough for scientists to get a
clear picture of the megalodon, said study
author Catalina Pimiento, a paleobiologist
with the University of Zurich and Swansea
University in Wales.
The skeleton is made of soft cartilage
that doesn’t fossilize well, Pimiento said.
The Associated Press
BERLIN — An iconic lighthouse at
the northern German port of Bremen has
tilted sideways and could soon topple over
entirely, offi cials said Thursday, Aug. 18.
Public broadcaster Radio Bremen
quoted the head of the water police, Uwe
Old, as saying that nothing could be done
to save the lighthouse.
“Unfortunately, I think the tower is
going to be history in the coming days,” he
said.
Authorities have banned ships from
entering the Geeste River at Bremerhaven
because of the risk posed by the leaning
lighthouse, which is located at the end of a
stone jetty that has long required repair.
But port operator Bremenports said it
planned to allow commercial ships entry
again soon. If the lighthouse doesn’t topple
by itself, the company said it would tear
it down over the weekend with the aim of
replacing it with an identical structure.
Giant sharks once roamed the seas,
feasting on huge meals
NEW YORK — Today’s sharks have
nothing on their ancient cousins. A giant
shark that roamed the oceans millions of
years ago could have devoured a creature
the size of a killer whale in just fi ve bites,
new research suggests.
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Beach chairs stay on the beach next to the leaning Mole tower in Bremerhaven, Germany, Thursday, Aug.
18, 2022. Offi cials in Bremen said that an iconic lighthouse at the German city’s port has tilted sideways
and could soon topple over entirely.
So the scientists used what few fossils are
available, including a rare collection of ver-
tebrae that’s been at a Belgium museum
since the 1860s.
Researchers also brought in a jaw’s
worth of megalodon teeth, each as big as
a human fi st, Hutchinson said. Scans of
modern great white sharks helped fl esh out
the rest.
Based on their digital creation,
researchers calculated that the megalodon
would have weighed around 70 tons, or as
much as 10 elephants.
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
59/74
Kennewick
62/89
St. Helens
68/97
63/89
67/98
64/89
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
Partly cloudy
Abundant sun
and hot
Sunshine and
hot
Very warm
Sunny and
beautiful
50 89 52
90 51
90 47
82 42
Eugene
8
8
9
58/92
90 57
91 54
83 47
6
7
9
La Grande
57 90 56
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
6
6
54 87 54
Comfort Index™
7
86 50
80 47
6
7
9
6
ALMANAC
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 119°
Low: 37°
Wettest: 3.35”
96°
50°
97°
53°
101°
53°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
0.00
0.13
0.29
4.60
6.28
0.00
0.16
0.46
9.14
11.12
0.00
0.08
0.43
17.84
15.66
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
25%
N at 6 to 12 mph
12.0
0.25
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
6% of capacity
45% of capacity
20% of capacity
73% of capacity
3% of capacity
25% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
OREGON
High: 101°
Low: 41°
Wettest: 0.01”
Rome
Sunriver
Astoria
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Death Valley, Calif.
Bodie State Park, Calif.
Lorain, Ohio
Hurricane Andrew wreaked havoc from
south of Coral Gables to the northern tip
of Key Largo on Aug. 23, 1992. A wind
gust of 164 mph was recorded at the
National Hurricane Center in Coral Gables.
SUN & MOON
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
TUE.
WED.
6:03 a.m.
7:46 p.m.
1:55 a.m.
6:27 p.m.
6:04 a.m.
7:45 p.m.
2:55 a.m.
7:03 p.m.
MOON PHASES
568 cfs
84 cfs
115 cfs
46 cfs
115 cfs
39 cfs
New
Aug 27
First
Full
Sep 3
Sep 10
Last
Sep 17
53/93
57/92
60/76
62/91
Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
56/92
Frenchglen
Paisley
57/95
50/92
51/91
Klamath Falls
62/96
50/91
59/97
Lakeview
48/92
McDermitt
54/94
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
THU.
City
Hi/Lo/W Hi/Lo/W
Astoria
74/59/pc 73/60/pc
Bend
89/59/s 91/57/s
Boise
99/65/s 95/66/s
Brookings
71/56/pc 69/58/pc
Burns
94/54/s 94/56/s
Coos Bay
69/60/c 72/59/c
Corvallis
88/59/s 90/56/s
Council
94/59/s 92/57/s
Elgin
90/58/s 89/56/s
Eugene
92/60/s 94/59/s
Hermiston
95/62/s 97/67/s
Hood River
97/71/s 94/69/s
Imnaha
92/62/s 92/63/pc
John Day
92/57/s 92/58/s
Joseph
86/56/t 85/57/s
Kennewick
98/67/s 97/67/s
Klamath Falls 91/53/s 93/52/s
Lakeview
92/48/s 91/51/s
Grand View
Arock
55/96
Fields
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
WED.
Diamond
57/94
55/95
Medford
Brookings
Boise
65/99
62/95
56/71
59/97
48/91
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
53/94
52/88
Beaver Marsh
Ontario
65/99
Burns
Brothers
48/89
Roseburg
Huntington
54/91
58/87
Coos Bay
59/94
67/99
Seneca
57/89
Oakridge
Council
50/89
John Day
Bend
Powers
55/91
50/82
56/90
Elkton
SUNDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
Sisters
Florence
58/69
Halfway
Granite
Baker City
Redmond
55/65
59/69
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
Monument
59/93
57/88
Newport
60/83
88 55
57/90
56/89
59/91
Corvallis
Enterprise
La Grande
64/90
64/96
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
6
Elgin
56/90
54/87
Condon
Maupin
8
66/94
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
59/91
Lewiston
66/96
Hood River
63/95
56/76
Comfort Index™
Forecasts and graphics provided
by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2022
Walla Walla
66/98
Vancouver
62/90
TIllamook
Baker City
Even other high-level predators may
have been lunch meat for the megalodon,
which could open its jaw to almost 6 feet
wide, Pimiento said.
Megalodons lived an estimated 23 mil-
lion to 2.6 million years ago.
Since megalodon fossils are rare, these
kinds of models require a “leap of imagi-
nation,” said Michael Gottfried, a paleon-
tologist at Michigan State University who
was not involved in the study. But he said
the study’s fi ndings are reasonable based on
what is known about the giant shark.
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
96/66/s
89/63/s
88/54/s
96/65/s
65/56/c
88/59/s
99/65/s
98/66/s
95/63/s
89/67/s
76/59/pc
93/56/s
91/64/s
91/62/s
86/63/t
98/70/s
86/50/s
94/65/s
Hi/Lo/W
95/67/s
84/62/s
88/55/s
98/64/s
65/55/c
88/58/s
98/66/s
98/65/s
95/67/s
92/65/s
79/58/pc
95/57/s
92/63/s
90/61/s
87/63/pc
101/72/s
87/53/s
93/69/s
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
A stray t-storm
A stray t-storm
67
49
85
51
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Sunny
Mostly sunny
78
53
95
57
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A t-storm around
Sunny
72
47
83
47
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
A t-storm around
Sunny and hot
86
56
93
63
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
A t-storm around
Sunny and hot
89
52
90
56
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