COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, JULY 5, 2022
Grandparents have opinions on what’s best for young man
DEAR ABBY: Our
26-year-old, college-educated
grandson, “Ethan,” crashed his
company car and was arrested for
DWI and possession of more than
a gram of cocaine. His mother
hired a lawyer, posted bond and is
taking full charge of the situation.
Ethan lost his responsible job, and
his girlfriend kicked him out. He
has a sizable inheritance, enough
to pay the lawyer and fi ne. Since
he has never been in trouble before,
we are hoping he won’t go to jail.
HISTORY
Continued from Page B1
Well, when shovel work
was all you had known and big
machines could now move dirt
from a narrow road into a dou-
ble-wide one and then pave it,
you could now sell lots and build
houses, but it doesn’t mean that
you can’t move the stone and put
it back in the near or same place
again, again and again.
And if you found anything
when the stone was moved,
did you put it back? Or, not
knowing what it was, could it
have been tossed into the dump
pile and forgotten about? When
you go from a one-lane road to a
paved city street, what changes
happen to the sides of the prop-
erties on either side? They give
way, don’t they, and things
Although we love Ethan dearly,
his dad and I agree he should
handle this on his own without his
mother (who is recently divorced
from our son) running to his
rescue. Ethan also needs help with
his addictions. He has enough 529
account funds to turn this serious
mistake into an opportunity to
return to college and get a mas-
ter’s degree.
I don’t know how much to
get involved, directly with Ethan
or his mother. Though my wife
and I are on good terms with his
mother, it appears she doesn’t
want our advice. I welcome
your suggestions on what to do.
— UPSET GRANDDAD IN
TEXAS
DEAR GRANDDAD: You
can voice your opinion, but
beyond that you should stay out
of it. As well-meaning as you
are, you can’t force your former
daughter-in-law — who is in
full mother mode — or Ethan to
abandon the path they are on. All
you can do is point out the dan-
gers they may encounter along
the way and hope they will listen,
however frustrating it may be.
DEAR ABBY: My fi ance and
I recently moved to a new area
because his job was relocated.
He was really excited to start
this new adventure, and I was
happy to come along. We’ve been
together for 10 years (high school
sweethearts), and we got engaged
just before we moved.
I noticed he had been Snap-
chatting with someone. When I
asked him about it, he refused to
tell me who, but said I shouldn’t be
concerned. Eventually, he did tell
me. It’s a female co-worker. I don’t
know much about her other than
she is recently divorced. I’m happy
she’s out of a bad situation, but I
don’t understand why she’s Snap-
chatting my fi ance. I also don’t
understand why he hid it from me
until I made a big deal out of it.
There are other details about
her — which I’m not sure are
100% true — that could change
my point of view about this, but
since I don’t know her, they are
hard for me to believe. Should I
be concerned, or is my anxiety
taking over? I’ll be addressing
this with him again, but I’m not
going to blow up in his face about
it. — DOUBTING IN SOUTH
DAKOTA
DEAR DOUBTING: I’m
glad you’re not going to blow up
because all it would do is make
your fi ance defensive. You do,
however, need to have a dis-
cussion with him about this
co-worker. If you feel he hasn’t
been completely honest about her
or her circumstances, and he has
become secretive, recognize it as
a huge red fl ag and proceed from
there. Do not get married before
this is resolved.
never look the same again,
and it’s hard for a newcomer
to imagine what it was like so
many years before.
I’m sure the folks who gath-
ered at the stone opening event
this morning (as I write this on
June 23) were terribly disap-
pointed and wished for more, But
folks shouldn’t go home thinking
that nothing of value had hap-
pened here today. The stone has
lost none of its history and should
be honored for itself in what it
represents about the importance
of having a goodly part of the Old
Oregon Trail go right through our
town and should be protected and
honored for the many years of its
age.
I’m so very grateful to Ronnie
Allen and Dale Counsell for
all their dedicated work toward
saving our portion of the Oregon
Trail through our area when it
seemed to be losing its history
locally.
But, if the Idaho Power trans-
mission line goes through our
area, some of our Oregon Trail in
the Blues will disappear with it.
Can we aff ord to let that happen?
Stop B2H is trying to stop it and
needs help.
When the house was built
on the hill above the county
road some distance higher and a
driveway lane put into it, folks
laughed to say that the Old
Oregon Trail had gone right on
up B Avenue and up the hill right
through the house’s bathroom.
That always brought a good laugh.
But it wasn’t funny to the folks
on the Oregon Trail who still had
to cross the Blue Mountains from
their resting place where later the
Browns’ inn and stage stop would
be across Cedar Street from my
Lovan folks and where the orig-
inal courthouse had been sta-
tioned in Old Town. Even later
this area was part of the original
La Grande business district.
The travelers didn’t follow the
road (Walnut Street), but stayed
on the trail directly up the hill
from B Avenue and pulled their
wagons behind them. Can you
imagine?
If today’s column seems long
and dry to some, may I say that
I’m still feeling emotional about
today’s presence at the time cap-
sule opening even though the
hole was empty. Had it not been
for the thoughtfulness of David
and Jeanne Williamson, new
owners of the old Elks building
in town who are history buff s
as well, and who saw that I was
there to witness another part of
our history going by, I would
have missed a very important
event that is still part of my life
in remembrance.
At my age of 95, the stone
has probably been moved a
number of times, but it was still
at what was once the head of B
Avenue. Whether or not it ever
had history information inside
the hollow stone, I can not
even guess. I just know that the
stone is the important symbol
and the temporary disappoint-
ment should not take away from
what we all witnessed this day.
It was an opportunity to learn
more about our own local his-
tory. The presence of so many
children being taught our past is
the beginning of a new era that
I thought perhaps was passing
us by.
My sincere gratitude.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com
or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Dorothy Swart Fleshman is the author of
Dory’s Diary, published monthly in The
Observer and Baker City Herald. She is a
resident of La Grande.
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AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
56/67
Kennewick
59/71
St. Helens
TIllamook
65/80
63/76
67/87
63/76
60/74
Condon
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
Clear to partly
cloudy
A thunderstorm
around
Partly sunny
Mostly sunny
and pleasant
Sunny and
pleasant
83 51
82 49
81 47
Eugene
8
9
9
60/75
82 56
81 52
82 52
9
8
9
50 83 53
La Grande
7
55 83 56
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
9
8
8
52 81 54
Comfort Index™
7
80 50
79 53
7
9
9
ALMANAC
SUNDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 111°
Low: 25°
Wettest: 3.03”
74°
54°
80°
56°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Sunday
Trace
Month to date
0.01
Normal month to date 0.07
Year to date
4.47
Normal year to date
5.51
0.14
0.16
0.08
8.92
10.14
40%
NNW at 6 to 12 mph
3.2
0.21
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
Ontario
Crater Lake
La Grande
TUE.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
WED.
5:11 a.m. 5:11 a.m.
8:43 p.m. 8:43 p.m.
11:38 a.m. 12:47 p.m.
12:05 a.m. 12:24 a.m.
MOON PHASES
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
5060 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 125 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
88 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
107 cfs
Minam River at Minam
1510 cfs
Powder River near Richland
30 cfs
First
Jul 6
Full
Jul 13
Last
Jul 20
Brothers
Coos Bay
49/82
Beaver Marsh
45/76
Roseburg
61/76
New
Jul 28
Burns
55/92
Jordan Valley
54/87
Paisley
46/82
Frenchglen
52/87
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Hi/Lo/W
67/55/c
81/54/pc
94/64/s
63/53/c
85/50/s
65/53/c
72/56/c
90/60/s
84/56/pc
75/57/c
92/65/s
80/63/pc
87/64/pc
87/53/pc
81/54/t
92/63/s
81/45/pc
81/42/pc
Hi/Lo/W
69/54/pc
77/51/sh
94/64/pc
64/52/c
87/50/s
66/52/c
73/54/pc
88/59/t
80/55/t
75/54/c
90/62/s
80/62/c
85/63/t
85/50/t
81/52/t
90/63/s
81/46/pc
81/43/s
Grand View
Arock
62/96
53/88
52/87
Klamath Falls
44/81
Lakeview
44/81
McDermitt
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
THU.
Diamond
52/86
Fields
Medford
WED.
Boise
64/94
Silver Lake
46/77
61/80
55/63
Juntura
49/85
61/79
Brookings
Ontario
64/96
45/81
51/88
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
SUN & MOON
24% of capacity
88% of capacity
38% of capacity
99% of capacity
27% of capacity
96% of capacity
Huntington
49/84
52/81
Oakridge
58/90
64/93
Seneca
58/75
Grants Pass
The temperature on July 5, 1937, soared
to 117 degrees at Medicine Lake, Mont.,
the hottest reading ever for Montana.
Montana has some of the nation’s coldest
winters, but they can become hot in the
summer.
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
51/87
Chiloquin
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Elkton
58/66
Death Valley, Calif.
Bodie State Park, Calif.
Beaufort, N.C.
High: 90°
Low: 36°
Wettest: 0.08”
53/81
Bend
Powers
OREGON
0.20
0.20
0.09
17.64
14.61
Florence
56/65
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
77°
49°
Sisters
Council
50/83
John Day
54/78
59/73
80 53
5
Baker City
Redmond
55/62
56/64
56/88
49/78
58/72
Newport
Halfway
Granite
57/88
60/74
62/75
Corvallis
Enterprise
52/81
55/83
Monument
62/83
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
Comfort Index™
Elgin
54/84
La Grande
59/81
Maupin
Baker City
62/84
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
62/87
Hood River
59/85
58/69
Lewiston
Walla Walla
62/92
Vancouver
60/73
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City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
87/65/s
71/57/c
80/51/pc
80/61/pc
62/54/c
72/54/c
96/66/s
94/64/s
85/60/s
76/62/pc
66/57/c
81/54/pc
76/60/sh
75/60/c
85/61/s
87/65/pc
80/50/s
84/64/s
Hi/Lo/W
88/63/pc
71/53/c
79/50/t
81/56/s
63/53/pc
72/50/pc
96/65/pc
92/62/s
84/60/s
75/60/pc
69/55/c
80/50/pc
76/55/c
78/56/pc
83/60/s
84/62/pc
78/48/pc
85/61/s
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sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
A shower
A stray t-shower
64 H 46
H
MT. EMILY REC.
A t-storm around
72
53
80
H H H
H 50
BROWNLEE RES.
Mostly sunny; nice
91
61
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A few showers
Partial sunshine
69
45
76
49
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Couple of t-storms
Mostly sunny; nice
81
54
85
58
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Partial sunshine
A t-storm around
83
53
83
56
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