COFFEE BREAK B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TUESDAY, MARCH 8, 2022 Dysfunctional relationships collide in workplace aff air DEAR ABBY: I’m a super- visor at my job and have feel- ings for a married man who also works here. He’s lonely and looks to me for attention, companion- ship, sex and to listen to his trou- bles. We have only had sex once, but I know I cannot continue this “relationship.” It breaks my heart because I care for him deeply, and if he was single, this is someone I could actually have a relation- ship with. I have already told him I won’t accept any more of his off ers to walk me home, and to quit texting me. He’s open with his wife regarding dating other people. It seems she’s also “talking” to another man outside of their marriage. Am I delusional to think he will leave her for me? Would he have the same problems with me that he has with her? He has dif- fi culty expressing his emotions, but I think he still loves his wife. I know their marriage is broken, and it’s not my job to fi x it for them or to push him to choose me over her. It should not have to be this way. Please, I would appreciate any advice you can off er. By the way, I’m also married, but my husband lives 7,000 miles away. After seven years, his immigration status still needs to be resolved. I’ll probably ask him for a divorce because, even though I care about him, I’m no longer in love with the man I married. He knows I have been dating someone because I told him. — IN KNOTS IN NEW YORK DEAR IN KNOTS: You didn’t mention whether there are policies in your business about fraternizing, but if there are, then what you have been doing could get you fi red. You have already started disengaging from this offi ce romance, so please con- tinue to do that. Because of the unique cir- cumstances of your marriage, you have some serious deci- sions to make. Do not drag your co-worker into it. IF there is the possibility of a future with him, he also needs to decide if he is satisfi ed with the status quo before making any other commitments. I know you are lonely, but for your sake and his, back off . DEAR ABBY: My husband of more than 20 years has taken to hiding decorative accessories that he doesn’t like. An example: A designer bowl set packaged in a box suddenly disappeared from the cupboard. The plug-in air freshener from my home offi ce also went missing. A lamp I moved from the living room to the foyer appeared on my book- case two hours later. My com- plaints fall on deaf ears. His favorite coff ee mug and iPad are about to mysteriously vanish. Can you talk some sense into him? — HIDE AND SEEK IN GEORGIA DEAR HIDE: Is this recent behavior, or has your husband been hiding things all during your marriage? If it’s recent, your husband may need a med- ical checkup, because what you are describing can be a symptom of dementia. If he’s mentally fi t, you two need to work on sharp- ening your communication skills and, perhaps, agree that before any more items are brought into the home the two of you share, they’re not something either of you will hate. NEWS OF THE WEIRD For whom the bell rolls: Paul Revere chime returns home BOSTON — A bronze bell cast in 1834 in Paul Revere’s Massachusetts foundry has come home — capping a nearly two-cen- tury, cross-country odyssey that saw it hauled by oxcart to churches in Ohio before languishing for decades in a California garage. After a weeklong journey across the U.S., the historic bell was returned Friday, Feb. 25, to the site where it was cre- ated 188 years ago, said Kiley Nichols, a spokes- person for the Paul Revere Heritage Site in Canton, just south of Boston. The museum said the 1,000-pound bell was made by the Revolutionary War patriot’s son, Joseph Warren Revere, who took over his father’s foundry in 1804. In 1984, real estate agent Jeannene Shanks became the bell’s accidental owner. She’d helped broker the sale of what once was First Bap- tist Church in Vermilion, Ohio, to a fi tness center — Amy Miller/Contributed Photo In this handout photograph provided by Amy Miller, a bronze bell forged in 1834 by Paul Revere’s son, Joseph Warren Revere, is readied for shipping in Chino Hills, Calif., on Feb. 8, 2022, for transport to the Paul Revere Heritage Site in Canton, Massachusetts. Amy Miller, the daughter of the California couple who acquired the bell in 1984, says she and her brother donated it to the museum so the public could view and appreciate it. weather | Go to AccuWeather.com matur. But after he casu- ally mentioned he’d melt it down if he decided not to keep it, the siblings spurned the off er. Miller did some online sleuthing, fi gured out where the bell was forged, and decided to donate it to the Massachusetts museum so the public could view and appreciate it. “I don’t need a bell in my garage, and this bell has a story of its own,” she said. “It represents what our his- tory and our country are all about. I wanted it to go beyond us — to go back to where it started. We’re the keepers of our history.” Local historian George Comeau, a board member of the Revere & Son Heritage Trust Corp., which oper- ates the museum, said few of the hundreds of bells the Reveres produced are in pri- vate hands — and most are hidden from public view. “This bell went 3,000 miles from Canton to Cal- ifornia,” he said. “It just shows the long reach of his- tory. We’re super excited but the gym didn’t want the heavy bell, and Shanks didn’t feel good about it being scrapped. She made a $1,000 donation to the church in exchange for the bell, which earlier had adorned the belfry of the First Presbyterian Church of Cleveland. When Shanks and her husband, Robert, retired in Chino Hills, Cali- fornia, they hauled the bell with them. “It became the joke of the family,” said Shanks’ daughter, Amy Miller, 66, a psychologist in Chino Hills. “They’d open the doors to the garage and ring the bell every Fourth of July. People would look at it and say, ‘What the heck is that?’” After their parents’ deaths, Miller and her 69-year-old brother, retired Ford Motor Co. executive Robert L. Shanks Jr. of Miami, moved the bell to Miller’s garage, where it’s sat since 2009. A collector in Texas off ered $50,000 for the bell, which bears Revere’s impri- The Associated Press AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 38/50 Kennewick 37/48 St. Helens 34/45 39/48 Condon 36/48 39/51 WED THU FRI SAT A little snow late Morning snow showers Partly sunny and cold Mostly sunny and chilly Clouds and sun 35 13 43 20 46 27 Eugene 0 1 1 40/53 37 13 46 26 52 36 1 2 4 La Grande 24 30 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 0 0 0 6 0 17 24 Comfort Index™ 0 3 49 36 1 5 8 0 TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High: 92° Low: -8° Wettest: 2.21” 42° 26° 46° 25° 46° 23° PRECIPITATION (inches) Sunday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date 0.00 0.02 0.13 0.41 1.42 Trace 0.19 0.30 2.06 3.20 0.00 0.87 0.49 6.42 6.10 HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY 55% NNW at 8 to 16 mph 0.0 0.04 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir Laredo, Texas Saco, Mont. 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His backup plan — lighting either one or two lanterns as signals from the steeple of Boston’s Old North Church — is immor- talized in a line in “Paul Revere’s Ride,” a Henry Wadsworth Longfellow poem: “One if by land, and two if by sea ...” Nearly 2-1/2 centuries later, Revere still fascinates. In 2017, archaeologists excavated what they believe was the site of an outhouse next door to his home in Boston’s North End. City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla WED. THU. 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