COFFEE BREAK B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 15, 2022 Woman anxious to avoid making the same mistakes compatible in every way, but one thing bothers me: Aaron can be passive-aggressive. It isn’t often and it generally isn’t just over petty stuff , but when it happens it is very hurtful. I’ve been going to counseling to resolve some issues from my childhood and fi rst marriage, and recently realized I have some toxic traits I need to work on and heal. Unfortunately, some of that toxicity has spilled into my relationship with Aaron and hurt him. When it happens, he reacts passive-aggressively for a bit, then things seem to go back to normal. What can I do to get over the hurt I feel when he acts this DEAR ABBY: My boy- friend, “Aaron,” and I have been together almost 10 years. We are both divorced from nar- cissistic spouses. We have dis- cussed a future together and are working toward it. It’s taking so long because Aaron’s children are quite a bit younger than mine. (I’m an empty nester; his kids are just going into their teens.) I am also working on getting my career established. We get along well and seem way? I don’t want to repay hurt for hurt. I want to break the cycle. — HEALING IN THE MIDWEST DEAR HEALING: If your “toxicity” is what causes Aaron to react with what you interpret as passive-aggression, he could simply be nursing his wounds. Talk with your therapist about including Aaron in some of your sessions. If the therapist agrees, tell Aaron you think your rela- tionship could be improved if he’s willing to go with you. If the therapist does NOT agree to the “joint” sessions, it might be worth your while to discuss cou- ples counseling with another therapist. the odds, you have been fortunate in having had a drama-free aff air for 30 years. Because you have no proof that your lover is involved with someone else, it would cause less damage to everyone if you shared your suspicions with HIM. I guarantee that if you reveal your three-decade aff air to his wife, you can kiss this romance goodbye. If the neighbor couple fi nds out you accused her, you will make enemies — particularly if your suspicions are not true. I fi nd it ironic that after helping your lover cheat for decades, you are now angry at him for cheating. I see nothing to be gained by creating a scandal to save your injured pride. DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing a married man for more than 30 years. Everything was fi ne between us until recently. I have begun to suspect one of my female neighbors is seeing him as well. I’m contemplating getting in touch with his wife and my neighbor’s husband and telling them about my suspicions. I need to know what to do so this relationship with the neighbor will stop. I know by telling on him, I’ll lose him, but if the neighbor is after him because of his money, I don’t want his wife thinking I’m the one taking it from him. What should I do? — NERVOUS IN TEXAS DEAR NERVOUS: Despite NEWS OF THE WEIRD United States suspends avocado imports from Mexico avocados had already been shipped. Avocado exports are the latest victim of the drug cartel turf battles and extor- tion of avocado growers in the western state of Micho- acan, the only state in Mexico fully authorized to export to the U.S. market. The U.S. government suspended all imports of Mexican avocados “until further notice” after a U.S. plant safety inspector in Mexico received a threat- ening message, Mexico’s Agriculture Department said in a statement. By MARK STEVENSON The Associated Press MEXICO CITY — Mexico has acknowledged that the U.S. government has suspended all imports of Mexican avocados after a U.S. plant safety inspector in Mexico received a threat. The surprise suspension was confi rmed late Sat- urday, Feb. 12, on the eve of the Super Bowl, the big- gest sales opportunity of the year for Mexican avo- cado growers — though it would not aff ect game-day consumption since those “U.S. health authorities ... made the decision after one of their offi cials, who was car- rying out inspections in Uru- apan, Michoacan, received a threatening message on his offi cial cellphone,” the department wrote. The import ban came on the day that the Mex- ican avocado growers and packers association unveiled its Super Bowl ad for this year. Mexican exporters have taken out the pricey ads for almost a decade in a bid to associate guacamole as a Super Bowl tradition. This year’s ad shows Julius Caesar and a rough bunch of gladiator fans out- side what appears to be the Colosseum, soothing their apparently violent diff er- ences by enjoying guaca- mole and avocados. The association did not immediately respond to a request for comment on the ban, which hits an industry with almost $3 billion in annual exports. However, avocados for this year’s Super Bowl had already been exported in the weeks prior to the event. Because the United States also grows avocados, U.S. inspectors work in Mexico to ensure exported avocados don’t carry diseases that could hurt U.S. crops. It was only in 1997 that the U.S. lifted a ban on Mexican avocados that had been in place since 1914 to prevent a range of wee- vils, scabs and pests from entering U.S. orchards. The inspectors work for the U.S. Department of Agriculture’s Animal and Plant Health Inspection Services. It is not the fi rst time that the violence in Micho- Come Check Out Our New Location & New Menu! acan — where the Jalisco cartel is fi ghting turf wars against a collection of local gangs known as the United Cartels — has threatened avocados, the state’s most lucrative crop. 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