COFFEE BREAK 8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD THuRSDAY, MAY 20, 2021 Doctor husband is a poor patient for his nurse wife DEAR ABBY: My physician husband recently had a total hip replacement. (Orthopedics is not his specialty.) I’m a board-cer- tified registered nurse with 40 years of experience who used to work inpa- tient orthopedics. He refuses to follow the surgeon’s direc- tions or mine, which are the same. He believes he knows more than all of us combined. How- ever, when the home health nurse and physical therapist came, he accepted everything they told him. When I told him he doesn’t respect my professional opinion, he didn’t respond. Then I told him he’d insulted my integrity, and he blew up and accused me of being crazy. History will soon repeat itself because he has to have his other hip done in a few months. I am to the point of letting the DEAR chips fall where they may and letting ABBY his outcomes (good or bad) be his sole responsibility. However, this is difficult to do as a wife and nurse. Plus, I will have to live with the fallout of any suboptimal out- comes. Your advice? — HIP SERVICE IN FLORIDA DEAR HIP SERVICE: Whether caused by a painful recovery or the drugs he has been prescribed, your hus- band’s behavior is self-defeating. Because he ignores your and his surgeon’s advice, you have no choice but to let the chips fall where they may. You can sug- gest and warn until you’re hoarse, and your husband will continue to tune you out. The person who will have to live with the con- sequences is your noncompliant husband. Allow me to offer a suggestion: Hire a nurse to tend to him after the second hip replacement and stay safely out of the line of fire. The peace of mind will be worth the money. DEAR ABBY: I have a niece who is bipolar. She was put into rehab at the age of 20 and has been clean and sober for the last three years. We have always been close, but on a family visit, she asked my opinion about a job choice, and I was honest with her. Because it wasn’t what she wanted to hear, she is extremely distant now. I am no longer “Auntie.” She calls me by my first name only. Weekly calls have ceased. I have championed my niece, supported her emotionally when she had problems and helped her out financially. Her mother says if you don’t agree with her (even though she solicits your opinion), you are then “against” her. What’s the best way to reach out to her? Due to extreme drug abuse for many years, she seems emotionally stuck at age 14. — AUNTIE NO MORE DEAR AUNTIE: With the clear understanding that I am not a psychotherapist, may I point out that some individuals who suffer from mental illness find it necessary to place people into two categories: friends and ene- mies. Disagreeing with your niece has landed you in the latter. Her mother has explained this to you, so try not to take it personally. I don’t think this troubled young woman will be recep- tive to a reconciliation until she has found another target. In the meantime, remain open, stay cordial and fill your life with activities that bring you joy rather than pain. I’m sure her mother will update you on your niece’s progress. News of the Weird Free offices with a view: Four lighthouses, courtesy of feds PROVIDENCE, R.I. — Dreading your even- tual return to the office? The federal government is making available — for free — some waterfront work- spaces with killer views that are sure to entice. But there’s a catch. The General Services Administration says the U.S. Coast Guard has decided it no longer needs four of the nation’s most picturesque lighthouses, and it’s inviting certain types of organizations to take them over at no cost. The GSA, which has been getting rid of its large inventory of obsolete light- houses, said Thursday, May 13, that Beavertail Light- house in Jamestown, Rhode Island — America’s third- oldest lighthouse, and a beacon that defeated British forces torched out of spite in 1779 as they withdrew from the new nation — is up for grabs. So are Watch Hill Light in Westerly, Rhode Island, not far from Taylor Swift’s beachside mansion; Cleve- land Harbor West Pierhead Light in Ohio; and Duluth Harbor North Pierhead Light in Minnesota. Conditionally, that is: The government says it’ll make the historic light- houses and their outbuild- ings available free of charge to federal, state and local agencies; nonprofit orga- nizations; educational and community development agencies; or groups devoted to parks, recreation, culture, or historic preservation. Beavertail Light “has been determined to be Niranjan Shrestha/Associated Press, File Nepalese veteran Sherpa guide Kami Rita waves on May 20, 2018, as he arrives in Kathmandu, Nepal. Rita, 51, an ace Sherpa guide scaled, Mount Everest on May 7, 2021, for the 25th time, breaking his own record for the most successful ascents of the world’s highest peak. Stew Milne/Associated Press, File Anglers in 2006 cast from the rocky shore at the Beavertail Lighthouse, the third-oldest lighthouse in America, on Narragansett Bay, in Jamestown, Rhode Island. The federal government announced the u.S. Coast Guard has decided it no longer needs four of the nation’s most storied and picturesque lighthouses, including the Bea- vertail Lighthouse. The government says it’ll make the historic lighthouses and their outbuildings available at no cost to federal, state and local agencies; nonprofit organizations; educational and community development agencies; or groups devoted to parks, recreation, culture or historic preservation. excess to the needs of the United States Coast Guard,” which is part of the Depart- ment of Homeland Security, GSA spokesperson Paul Hughes said in a statement. Beavertail Light has been listed in the National Register of Historic Places since 1977. The 64-foot granite lighthouse faces south where Narragan- sett Bay and Rhode Island Sound meet, offering drop- dead-gorgeous ocean vistas. All that remains of the original lighthouse is its foundation; it was con- structed in 1749 and burned down by British soldiers in 1779. The lighthouse was built in 1856 along with six additional structures totaling 5,171 square feet. Hughes said the gov- ernment is asking groups to express their interest in the next 60 days, and the National Park Service will review the applications. Perched on a peninsula, in Florida were called to rescue a cat — not out of a tree, but from the under- carriage of a car owned by New York Giants corner- back Isaac Yiadom, offi- cials said. Rescue workers responded to Yiadom’s home Sunday morning, according to a Facebook post by the Fort Lauderdale Fire Department. Firefighters jacked up the Maserati and partially dis- assembled the car to reach the small tabby, which was stuck above the rear differ- ential. The cat didn’t appear to be injured. Watch Hill Light is a three- story granite block tower with a cast iron and glass lantern on top. It’s attached to a two-story brick keepers dwelling built in 1935. Cleveland Harbor West Pierhead Light, built in 1911 to guide ships in Lake Erie approaching the Port of Cleveland, housed a Coast Guard Station until 1976. It’s best known for its annual transformation into a majestic ice castle when winter temperatures freeze the surf that sprays its facade. Duluth Harbor North Pierhead Light, built in 1910 and perched at the western- most tip of Lake Superior, also is listed on the National Register of Historic Places. Sherpa guide scales Mount Everest for record 25th time KATHMANDU, Nepal — A Sherpa guide scaled Mount Everest for the 25th time on May 7, breaking his own record for the most ascents of the world’s highest peak. Cat rescued from undercarriage of Isaac Yiadom’s car FORT LAUDER- DALE, Fla. — Firefighters weather | Go to AccuWeather.com Kami Rita and 11 other Sherpa guides reached the summit at about 6 p.m., Department of Tourism offi- cial Mira Acharya said. They are the first group of climbers to reach the summit this year and were fixing the ropes on the icy route so hundreds of other climbers can scale the peak this month. Everest was closed to climbing last year on both its southern side, which is in Nepal, and its northern side, which is in China, because of the corona- virus pandemic. Nepal has issued climbing permits this year to 408 foreign climbers despite a surging COVID-19 outbreak. China has opened the northern slope to only a few dozen mountaineers who will be tested for the coro- navirus and must keep their distance while climbing. Rita, 51, first scaled Everest in 1994 and has been making the trip nearly every year since then. He is one of many Sherpa guides whose expertise and skills are vital to the safety and AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 46/58 Kennewick 46/67 St. Helens 45/70 50/65 51/68 46/68 41/67 Condon FRI SAT SUN MON Overcast, a shower late Cloudy with a few showers Showers possible Sun and clouds, a shower Clouds and sun; warmer 53 35 60 37 67 37 Eugene 4 4 10 41/65 55 36 59 41 68 41 4 4 10 La Grande 40 52 39 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 0 0 0 35 48 35 Comfort Index™ 0 59 37 63 39 3 8 10 0 ALMANAC TUESDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Tuesday Low Tuesday High: 109° Low: 24° Wettest: 5.30” 61° 42° 61° 44° 65° 45° PRECIPITATION (inches) Tuesday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date 0.00 0.03 0.81 1.69 3.86 Trace 0.03 1.14 5.87 6.95 0.00 0.05 1.27 13.76 10.96 AGRICULTURAL INFO. HAY INFORMATION FRIDAY Lowest relative humidity Afternoon wind Hours of sunshine Evapotranspiration 55% N at 8 to 16 mph 4.1 0.09 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Wednesday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir 18% of capacity 94% of capacity 52% of capacity 98% of capacity 60% of capacity 92% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Tuesday) Grande Ronde at Troy 6940 cfs Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 117 cfs Burnt River near Unity 134 cfs Umatilla River near Gibbon 375 cfs Minam River at Minam 1920 cfs Powder River near Richland 42 cfs Death Valley, Calif. Bellemont, Ariz. Victoria, Texas OREGON High: 79° Low: 32° Wettest: 0.06” Rome Crater Lake Hillsboro On May 20, 1982, Cincinnati’s eastern suburb of Milford was swamped by 2.50 inches of rain in just a half of an hour. Cincinnati’s average May rainfall is 4.07 inches. SUN & MOON THU. Sunrise Sunset Moonrise Moonset 5:17 a.m. 8:21 p.m. 1:16 p.m. 2:39 a.m. FRI. 5:16 a.m. 8:23 p.m. 2:31 p.m. 3:04 a.m. MOON PHASES Full May 26 Last Jun 2 New Jun 10 Florence 44/57 31/45 Beaver Marsh 29/48 Roseburg Powers Brothers 40/55 Coos Bay 43/63 First Jun 17 Burns Jordan Valley 33/44 Paisley 32/51 Frenchglen 35/47 City Astoria Bend Boise Brookings Burns Coos Bay Corvallis Council Elgin Eugene Hermiston Hood River Imnaha John Day Joseph Kennewick Klamath Falls Lakeview Hi/Lo/W 58/47/c 56/38/sh 56/40/sh 59/45/pc 51/36/c 57/45/pc 65/42/c 59/37/sh 54/36/c 65/42/c 69/49/sh 65/51/sh 53/41/sh 47/39/sh 48/34/sh 71/46/sh 50/35/c 48/33/sh Hi/Lo/W 61/50/pc 51/37/pc 60/41/pc 61/47/pc 50/34/pc 58/48/pc 68/47/pc 55/37/sh 55/34/sh 67/48/pc 67/42/pc 66/50/pc 57/45/sh 50/36/pc 49/32/sh 69/43/pc 55/33/pc 48/30/pc Diamond Grand View Arock 34/46 44/55 39/50 36/50 Klamath Falls 32/50 Lakeview 30/48 McDermitt Shown is Friday’s weather. Temperatures are Thursday night’s lows and Friday’s highs. SAT. 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A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 37/58 Baker City Redmond 44/52 45/56 Halfway Granite 42/65 Newport 43/62 51 32 41/55 40/52 44/67 Corvallis Enterprise 35/48 40/52 Monument 48/67 Idanha Salem TONIGHT 0 Elgin 38/54 La Grande 40/53 Maupin Comfort Index™ 42/62 Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg Lewiston 44/62 Hood River 43/60 TIllamook 37 52 36 Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2021 Walla Walla 48/71 Vancouver 44/71 46/57 Baker City success of the hundreds of climbers who head to Nepal each year seeking to stand on top of the 29,032-foot mountain. His father was among the first Sherpa guides, and Rita followed in his foot- steps and then some. In addition to his 25 times to the top of Everest, Rita has scaled several other peaks that are among the world’s highest, including K-2, Cho-Oyu, Manaslu and Lhotse. He was at Everest’s base camp in 2015 when an ava- lanche swept through, killing 19 people. After that tragedy, he came under intense family pressure to quit mountaineering, but in the end decided against it. Forty-three teams have been permitted to scale Everest during this year’s spring climbing season and will be assisted by about 400 Nepalese guides. Each May, there are usu- ally only a few windows of good weather at the summit during which climbers can attempt to scale the peak. — Associated Press City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla FRI. SAT. Hi/Lo/W 62/44/sh 67/44/c 53/39/sh 62/46/c 52/45/c 70/41/pc 59/44/sh 69/46/sh 60/43/c 68/48/c 57/47/pc 56/37/sh 63/47/c 67/44/c 59/44/sh 68/51/sh 51/31/sh 62/44/sh Hi/Lo/W 68/46/sh 67/50/pc 55/34/sh 69/46/pc 55/47/pc 70/46/pc 61/42/pc 69/45/pc 61/39/sh 68/53/pc 64/51/pc 54/38/pc 69/49/pc 69/49/pc 65/45/c 67/51/pc 50/31/sh 63/45/sh Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain, sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice ANTHONY LAKES PHILLIPS LAKE Cold with fl urries Cold with a shower 30 22 46 35 MT. EMILY REC. BROWNLEE RES. Morning fl urries Spotty showers 42 30 57 42 EAGLE CAP WILD. EMIGRANT ST. PARK Cloudy and cold Morning fl urries 36 27 48 32 WALLOWA LAKE MCKAY RESERVOIR Morning fl urries Spotty showers 48 34 59 42 THIEF VALLEY RES. RED BRIDGE ST. PARK Windy Spotty showers 52 36 52 39