COFFEE BREAK 8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TuESDAY, MAY 11, 2021 Disabled son excluded from wedding guest list DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my second hus- band for more than 15 years. My 30+-year-old son from my first marriage, who was born dis- abled, lives with us. He walks and talks, but cannot be left unattended. He also needs medica- tion. He cannot read or write, but looks like he has no medical issues at all. I have no extended family members in the state. My husband and I were invited to a family wedding. However, my disabled son was not. Bride’s rule: No chil- dren allowed. I pointed out that he is older than she is. He sees this relative several times a year. Child care is hard to find and expensive. I do not know if others tried to get the bride to change her mind. My husband attended alone while my son and I spent the evening with friends and had fun. DEAR He didn’t say any- thing to cause a ABBY confrontation. Please share your thoughts. I get very sad whenever family events come around and she is there. Life is different when you have a family with special needs. — HURT IN THE EAST DEAR HURT: I agree, life is different for families in which someone has special needs. If you haven’t already, I think you have the right to express your feelings to the bride. It would be better than silently nursing a grudge and fuming when you see her. While it would have been nice if she had included your son in the invitation, she was within her rights to invite — or exclude — anyone if she had concerns. Because your husband was able to represent the family while you and your son had fun elsewhere, from my perspective, everything turned out well. DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend never gets off his phone — like ever! The first thing he does in the morning is grab his phone. He was off one day last week and — I’m not exaggerating — he didn’t put it down for 13 hours. or relationships. That he blows you off when you try to discuss it tells me he is deep in denial. There is treatment for gaming addiction, but only if the addict is willing to admit there’s a problem. Treatment may involve private counseling or, in some cases, inpatient care. However, if this is unaffordable, On-Line Gamers Anonymous (olganon.org) may be a helpful alternative. It is a 12-step program based on the princi- ples of AA. If you go online, you will find there is a fellowship of friends and family members of gaming addicts. You might want to check it out. If you intend to continue this romance, get out of the house when he binges and do something YOU enjoy. He plays this one particular game, and it’s all he does. It’s affecting our relationship, but if I say anything about it, he laughs, gets mad or ignores me. I don’t know what else to do. Help! — WOMAN VS. PHONE IN OHIO DEAR WOMAN: Was your boyfriend always like this? If the answer is no, he may have become addicted to gaming, which, as of 2020, had become a multibil- lion-dollar industry. According to The Addiction Center, the “average” gamer spends six hours a week glued to his or her cell- phone. That your boyfriend went on a 13-hour binge is cause for alarm. One sign of addiction is when it interferes with daily life News of the Weird COVID-like existence, iso- lated underground sucking on plant sap, right? In the 17th year these teenagers are going to come out of the earth by the billions if not trillions. They’re going to try to best everything on the planet that wants to eat them during this crit- ical period of the nighttime when they’re just trying to grow up, they’re just trying to be adults, shed that skin, get their wings, go up into the treetops, escape their predators,” he says. “Once in the treetops, hey, it’s all going to be about romance. It’s only the males that sing. It’s going to be a big boy band up there as the males try to woo those females, try to convince that special someone that she should be the mother of his nymphs. He’s going to perform, sing songs. If she likes it, she’s going to click her wings. They’re going to have some wild sex in the treetop. “Then she’s going to move out to the small branches, lay their eggs. Then it’s all going to be Nature at its craziest: Trillions of cicadas about to emerge COLUMBIA, Md. — Sifting through a shovel load of dirt in a suburban backyard, Michael Raupp and Paula Shrewsbury find their quarry: a cicada nymph. And then another. And another. And four more. In maybe a third of a square foot of dirt, the Uni- versity of Maryland ento- mologists find at least seven cicadas — a rate just shy of a million per acre. A nearby yard yielded a rate closer to 1.5 million. And there’s much more afoot. Trillions of the red-eyed black bugs are coming, scientists say. Within days, a couple weeks at most, the cicadas of Brood X (the X is the Roman numeral for 10) will emerge after 17 years underground. There are many broods of periodic cicadas that appear on rigid schedules in different years, but this is one of the largest and most noticeable. They’ll including ants, birds, dogs, cats and Raupp. It’s one of nature’s weirdest events, featuring sex, a race against death, evolution and what can sound like a bad science fic- tion movie soundtrack. Some people may be repulsed. Psychiatrists are calling entomologists wor- rying about their patients, Shrewsbury said. But sci- entists say the arrival of Brood X is a sign that despite pollution, climate change and dramatic bio- diversity loss, something is still right with nature. And it’s quite a show. Raupp presents the nar- rative of cicada’s lifespan with all the verve of a Hol- lywood blockbuster: “You’ve got a creature that spends 17 years in a Carolyn Kaster/Associated Press university of Maryland entomologists Michael Raupp and Paula Shrews- bury sift through a shovel of dirt to pick out cicada nymphs in a suburban backyard in Columbia, Maryland on Tuesday, April 13, 2021. At right, a ci- cada nymph moves in the grass. Within days, a couple weeks at most, the cicadas of Brood X (the X is the Roman numeral for 10) will emerge after 17 years underground. There are many broods of periodic cicadas that appear on rigid schedules in different years, but this is one of the largest and most noticeable. be in 15 states from Indiana to Georgia to New York; they’re coming out now in mass numbers in Tennessee and North Carolina. When the entire brood emerges, backyards can look like undulating waves, and the bug chorus is lawn- mower loud. 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