COFFEE BREAK 6B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD SATuRDAY, ApRIL 3, 2021 Man talks about his will but won’t put it in writing DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for seven years. We are in our 60s. He refuses to make a will. He tells me what he “would” put in his will and asks me if I am OK with his wishes. He has an adult child from his first marriage and would like to include her in the will. I’m fine with what he wants. This con- versation has been going on for more than five years now, but he never acts on it. I am very hurt and frustrated. The house is in his name, and my name isn’t even on his checking accounts. I resent him for this. There are times when I want to get a divorce because I feel if something should happen to him, I will have no security. I also think he is being selfish to me and his adult child DEAR to leave us in a sit- ABBY uation where we would have to go through the probate process. Please help me to get through to him. — RESENTFUL IN MAINE DEAR RESENTFUL: Your husband may be afraid to face the idea of his own mortality. He wouldn’t be the first. The two of you need to make an appoint- ment with an attorney who spe- cializes in wills and estates. If he doesn’t put his wishes in writing, the assets he has worked so hard for may be seriously diminished when the state decides “for him” and takes a sizable chunk out of the estate. While you are talking with the lawyer, there should also be a discussion of end-of-life plan- ning. Does he want hospice? Palliative care? Do you know what his wishes are in the event he is unable to speak for him- self? Those wishes should be in writing and so should YOURS. (This subject should also be raised with your doctor(s).) Most people want to keep what they have worked for and decide for themselves what will happen when they die. Death is a fact of life, and hiding from it won’t make it go away. DEAR ABBY: I send out lots of greeting cards every year for birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. I keep a large number of them on hand so I am prepared. I received a Christmas card this year from an elderly family member that said: “Thank you for the insulting anniversary card.” “Insulting” was underlined twice. I was dismayed. Their anniversary was last August. I have no idea which card I sent since I keep so many on hand. I am guessing it may have been a humorous card that they didn’t find funny, but I’m not sure. Both are very alert and ori- ented. What is the proper thing to do here? Do I call them and apologize when I have no idea what it said? Should I not send an anniversary card next year or send a very generic one? I have been very upset that my good wishes were so poorly received. Any advice you can give would be appreciated. Thank you. — CONFUSED IN THE MIDWEST DEAR CONFUSED: Call the couple and ASK what it was about the card that upset them. Explain that it wasn’t your inten- tion to offend them, and apolo- gize. DO send an anniversary card when the time comes, but when you do, make certain the message inside is appropriate. News of the Weird Two space fans get seats on billionaire’s private flight CAPE CANAVERAL, Fla. — A billionaire’s pri- vate SpaceX flight filled its two remaining seats Tuesday with a scien- tist-teacher and a data engi- neer whose college friend actually won a spot but gave him the prize. The new passengers: Sian Proctor, a community college educator in Tempe, Arizona, and Chris Sem- broski, a former Air Force missileman from Everett, Washington. They will join flight sponsor Jared Isaacman and another pas- senger for three days in orbit this fall. Isaacman also revealed some details about his Inspiration4 mission, as the four gathered Tuesday at NASA’s Kennedy Space Center. He’s head of Shift4 Payments, a credit card-pro- cessing company in Allen- town, Pennsylvania, and is paying for what would be SpaceX’s first private flight while raising money for St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital in Memphis, Tennessee. Their SpaceX Dragon capsule — currently parked at the International Space Station for NASA — will launch no earlier than mid-September, aiming for an altitude of 335 miles (540 kilometers). That’s 75 miles (120 kilometers) higher than the Interna- tional Space Station and on a level with the Hubble Space Telescope. The capsule will be out- fitted with a domed window in place of the usual space station docking mechanism for their trip. Isaacman, 38, a pilot Doug Strickland/Chattanooga Times Free Press via AP Children from the YMCA Westside and Salvation Army high-five Looie the Lookout on July 18, 2019, in Chattanooga, Tennessee. The Chattanooga Lookouts announced Wednesday, March 31, 2021, on Twitter that the cos- tume for Looie the Lookout has been returned home safe. The team told authorities the mascot’s costume was stolen from an office at AT&T Field on Tuesday, along with merchandise and equipment. SpaceX via Ap Jared Isaacman (from left), Hayley Arceneaux, Sian proctor and Chris Sembroski pose for a photo, Monday, March 29, 2021, from the SpaceX launch tower at NASA’s Kennedy Space Center at Cape Canaveral, Florida. His friend declined to fly for personal reasons and offered the spot to Sem- broski, who worked as a Space Camp counselor in college and volunteered for space advocacy groups. “Just finding out that I’m going to space was an incredible, strange, surreal event,” he said. He’s about to start a new job at Lockheed Martin and admits it will be a bal- ancing act over the next six months, as the crew trains. Isaacman insists they won’t cut any corners as they prepare for launch. “You don’t go up on Everest, right, after just a hike in the backyard. You build your way to it,” he told reporters. Proctor, who studied geology, applied three times to NASA’s astronaut corps, coming close in 2009, and took part in simulated Mars missions in Hawaii. She was born in Guam, where her late father worked at NASA’s tracking station for the Apollo moonshots, including Neil Armstrong who will serve as space- craft commander, still won’t say how much he’s paying. He’s donating $100 million to St. Jude, while donors so far have contributed $13 million, primarily through the lottery that offered a chance to fly in space. Hayley Arceneaux, 29, was named to the crew a month ago. The St. Jude physician assistant was treated there as a child for bone cancer. That left two capsule seats open. Proctor, 51, beat out 200 businesses and nabbed the seat reserved for a customer of Isaacman’s company. An independent panel of judges chose her space art website dubbed Space2inspire. “It was like when Harry Potter found out he was a wizard, a little bit of shock and awe,” Proctor told The Associated Press last week. “It’s like, ‘I’m the winner?’” Sembroski, 41, donated and entered the lottery but wasn’t picked in the random drawing earlier this month — his friend was. weather | Go to AccuWeather.com looks like a big red baseball cap, with a black brim for a nose. The Lookouts said hun- dreds of dollars in mer- chandise and equipment also were stolen. Myzal said none of that prop- erty has been returned or located. She said police are reviewing security cameras in the area. The Lookouts kick off their season at home on May 4. and Buzz Aldrin’s. She plans to teach from space and create art up there, too. Looie the Lookout costume back with Tennessee baseball team CHATTANOOGA, Tenn. — A minor league baseball team in Tennessee has its mascot back a day after it was reported stolen from a ballpark. The Chattanooga Lookouts announced Wednesday, March 31, on Twitter that the costume for Looie the Lookout “has been returned home safe.” Chattanooga Police spokeswoman Elisa Myzal said in an email that an employee of a nearby aquarium found the cos- tume near the team’s stadium. The Lookouts told authorities the mascot’s costume was stolen from an office at AT&T Field on Tuesday, according to a Facebook post from Chatta- nooga police. Looie’s head ‘Major’ pain: Biden’s dog involved in second biting incident WASHINGTON — President Joe Biden’s younger dog Major this week was involved in his second biting incident of the month, the White House said Tuesday, March 27. The dog “nipped someone while on a walk” on Monday, said Michael LaRosa, press secretary to first lady Jill Biden, adding the dog “is still adjusting to his new surroundings.” The individual was seen by AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 41/50 Kennewick 41/55 St. Helens 45/55 43/51 44/58 46/52 43/53 Condon SUN MON TUE WED Mostly cloudy Partly sunny and cooler Morning snow showers Sun and clouds; warmer Nice with periods of sun 54 30 62 32 68 35 Eugene 3 9 10 41/56 53 28 65 39 66 38 4 10 10 La Grande 44 58 31 Comfort Index™ 10 Enterprise 8 39 57 29 Comfort Index™ 10 61 36 60 38 4 10 10 ALMANAC NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Thursday Low Thursday High: 96° Low: -3° Wettest: 1.46” 71° 33° 69° 45° 72° 41° PRECIPITATION (inches) Thursday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date 0.00 0.00 0.02 1.09 2.22 0.00 0.00 0.05 5.69 4.28 0.00 0.00 0.07 13.17 7.77 AGRICULTURAL INFO. HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY Lowest relative humidity Afternoon wind Hours of sunshine Evapotranspiration 45% NW at 7 to 14 mph 0.7 0.11 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir Elkton 40/58 16% of capacity 73% of capacity 58% of capacity 82% of capacity 56% of capacity 101% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday) Grande Ronde at Troy 6070 cfs Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 102 cfs Burnt River near Unity 40 cfs Umatilla River near Gibbon 644 cfs Minam River at Minam 336 cfs Powder River near Richland 279 cfs Anaheim, Calif. Climax, Colo. Rockland, Maine OREGON High: 78° Low: 16° Wettest: none Medford Lakeview WEATHER HISTORY A heavy storm struck the mid-Atlantic on April 3, 1915. It dropped 10 inches of snow in New York City, 15 inches in Dover, Del., and nearly 20 inches in Philadelphia. SUN & MOON SAT. Sunrise Sunset Moonrise Moonset SUN. 6:29 a.m. 6:27 a.m. 7:23 p.m. 7:24 p.m. 2:01 a.m. 3:02 a.m. 10:33 a.m. 11:34 a.m. MOON PHASES Last Apr 4 New Apr 11 First Apr 19 Full Apr 26 Brothers 33/58 Beaver Marsh 30/57 Roseburg 42/62 Burns Jordan Valley 40/66 Paisley 39/67 Frenchglen 40/69 34/66 Hi/Lo/W 50/36/sh 59/21/pc 72/38/s 57/41/c 68/27/pc 52/35/c 53/34/c 62/28/pc 56/30/r 56/33/c 63/36/pc 51/34/pc 61/36/pc 62/36/pc 56/28/pc 65/34/pc 66/28/pc 67/27/pc Hi/Lo/W 52/37/pc 58/29/pc 54/34/pc 59/40/pc 52/25/sh 56/38/c 58/35/pc 45/26/sn 53/30/sf 58/35/pc 63/33/pc 58/36/pc 50/32/sn 47/31/r 51/29/sh 64/32/pc 58/24/c 55/22/pc Grand View Arock 44/78 44/71 Lakeview 33/67 McDermitt 39/69 RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY REGIONAL CITIES City Astoria Bend Boise Brookings Burns Coos Bay Corvallis Council Elgin Eugene Hermiston Hood River Imnaha John Day Joseph Kennewick Klamath Falls Lakeview Diamond 39/65 42/70 Klamath Falls Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs. MON. Boise 50/72 Fields Medford SUN. 39/69 Silver Lake 37/63 44/68 42/57 Juntura 35/68 42/69 Brookings Ontario 46/78 33/63 Chiloquin Grants Pass Huntington 34/58 40/55 Coos Bay 41/62 48/72 Seneca 36/59 Oakridge Council 38/68 40/62 35/57 Bend THURSDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin 36/55 John Day 33/63 Sisters Florence Powers 40/66 Baker City Redmond 42/49 44/50 Halfway Granite 41/53 Newport 40/52 Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 38/61 38/52 42/51 41/59 52 30 8 Corvallis Enterprise 39/57 44/58 Monument 41/57 Idanha Salem TONIGHT 10 Elgin 41/56 La Grande 39/56 Maupin Comfort Index™ 10 48/61 Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg Lewiston 46/64 Hood River 47/58 TIllamook 38 68 31 Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2021 Walla Walla 48/65 Vancouver 43/56 42/49 Baker City the White House Medical Unit “out of an abundance of caution” and returned to work without injury, LaRosa added. The dog had been seen by reporters on a walk around the White House South Lawn before the pres- ident and first lady traveled to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial early Monday evening. The German shep- herd only just returned to the White House last week, along with his sib- ling Champ, after causing a minor injury to an employee of the U.S. Secret Service on March 8. After that incident, the president said Major was “a sweet dog.” In an inter- view with ABC News, Biden explained the biting by saying that the dog had “turned a corner, there’s two people he doesn’t know at all, you know, and they move and moves to protect.” This week’s biting inci- dent was reported by CNN. — Associated Press City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla SUN. MON. Hi/Lo/W 64/40/pc 55/31/pc 55/30/r 68/37/pc 49/35/c 51/30/sh 78/40/pc 65/36/pc 58/33/pc 52/36/c 58/34/c 63/24/pc 62/35/c 51/33/c 55/35/pc 58/36/pc 53/23/pc 61/36/pc Hi/Lo/W 55/36/pc 57/36/pc 53/30/sf 65/37/c 50/37/pc 55/33/pc 60/33/c 62/33/pc 57/33/pc 57/39/pc 54/37/c 55/26/pc 60/36/c 55/35/pc 54/34/pc 60/36/s 50/27/sn 54/37/pc Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain, sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice ANTHONY LAKES PHILLIPS LAKE Colder Cooler 37 14 58 26 MT. EMILY REC. BROWNLEE RES. Cooler Cooler 44 23 65 30 EAGLE CAP WILD. EMIGRANT ST. PARK Clouds and sun Cooler 45 21 49 22 WALLOWA LAKE MCKAY RESERVOIR Some sun; cooler Cooler 56 28 57 31 THIEF VALLEY RES. RED BRIDGE ST. PARK Breezy in the p.m. Cooler 68 31 58 31