8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 9, 2021
COFFEE BREAK
Privacy becomes an issue after woman discovers aff air
DEAR ABBY: Because my
fi ance and I had bad experi-
ences in the past, we settled on
just living together for the last 17
years. He has been like a husband
to me and faithful all these years.
Recently, however,
I caught him in an
online affair.
I checked his
phone one day out
of the blue — some-
thing I have never
done before because we respect
each other’s privacy. The emails
were daily, back and forth, with
only one mentioning a sexual
encounter at the beginning.
He confessed that he had made
a big mistake once and refused to
see her again in person but had
kept up the correspondence. He
begged me to forgive him and I
agreed, since we were together
for so long.
The problem is, now we argue
about his phone. He still expects
the same privacy with it. I don’t
feel comfortable with that now.
Does he still deserve the same
privacy?
— HUNG UP IN OHIO
DEAR HUNG
UP: No, he does not.
What he deserves
DEAR
is the chance to
ABBY
rebuild your trust,
and that involves
accountability on
his part, which includes allowing
you access to his phone if you feel
insecure.
After 17 years together, both of
you have a large emotional invest-
ment in this relationship. Because
of that, it might be benefi cial to
schedule some sessions with a
licensed relationship counselor to
fi gure out where it went off the
rails.
DEAR ABBY: I read your
column every day. I know some-
times you suggest people see a
doctor, either medical or psycho-
logical. What do you do if you are
terrifi ed of doctors?
I have asthma and consult my
doctor via a computer, but some
doctors (like dentists) can’t do
that. I have horrible panic attacks
and anxiety. Then my asthma
kicks in, I can’t breathe, and I
cry uncontrollably. I don’t want
to take medications because they
make me sleepy.
Because I’m so doped up,
someone has to come with me to
the doctor to drive me home and
watch me be an uncontrollable
mess. Also, missing a whole day
of work for a one-hour doctor
appointment is, in my opinion,
ridiculous. I think I’d rather be
sick than go to the doctor.
My family insists it’s all in my
head and I should just get over
it, but because of many horrible
experiences at doctors’ offi ces,
split the cost of car rental, gas and
hotels. However, I was assuming
that he would pay his own air-
fare, and he was assuming that we
would split it like everything else.
What’s normal in situations
like this? Is it normal to pay one’s
own airfare and expect costs to
even out in the future when the
other person fl ies to you? Or is it
normal to split the cost each time?
The road trip isn’t at risk because
of this, but I want to set the right
precedent for future vacations we
take together.
— ROAD TRIPPING IN IOWA
DEAR ROAD TRIPPING:
This is something you need to dis-
cuss further with your friend. Do
you consider his getting there a
part of your shared vacation, or
do you feel your responsibility
begins when he arrives? There are
no hard-and-fast rules about this,
and frankly, I think it depends
upon your fi nancial situations.
which I believe caused my fear,
I just can’t. The current situa-
tion with the worldwide COVID
epidemic has made my anxiety
worse. Your thoughts?
— TERRIFIED
DEAR TERRIFIED: My
thought is that you need to
ask your doctor or your insur-
ance company for a referral to a
licensed psychologist who special-
izes in phobias and panic attacks.
Many of them consult with their
patients online these days. Once
you fi nally get a handle on that
problem, the rest will be easier.
While few people relish the idea
of going to the doctor or den-
tist, NOT doing what is neces-
sary to protect your health can be
dangerous.
DEAR ABBY: My friend and I
are planning a road trip. We live
in different parts of the country,
so he’ll be fl ying to my city, where
we will start the trip. We plan to
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Tiny chameleon a
contender for title
of smallest reptile
BERLIN — It fi ts on a
human fi ngertip, but this
chameleon could make a
big splash.
Scientists from Mada-
gascar and Germany say
a newly discovered spe-
cies of chameleon is a
contender for the title of
world’s smallest reptile.
Frank Glaw, who was
part of the international
team of researchers that
classifi ed the new species
and named it Brookesia
nana, said the body of the
male specimen appeared
to be just 13.5 millime-
ters-long (a little more than
a 1/2-inch.)
That’s at least 1.5 mil-
limeters smaller than the
previous record holder,
another member of the
Brookesia family.
Glaw, a reptile expert at
the Bavarian State Collec-
tion of Zoology in Munich,
said the tiny male and a
slightly larger female were
spotted on a mountainside
by a local guide during a
2012 expedition.
“You really have to get
down on your knees to
fi nd them,” Glaw told The
Associated Press in a tele-
phone interview Friday,
Jan. 5. “They are obvi-
ously camoufl aged and
they move very slowly.”
Glaw and his col-
leagues performed a CT
scan of the female and dis-
covered that it harbored
two eggs, confi rming it
was an adult.
For the male, the
researchers took a close
look at its “well-devel-
oped” genitals, which in
chameleons come in pairs
known as hemipenes.
They found the geni-
tals of the Brookesia nana
specimen were almost
one=fi fth of its body
size, possibly to allow it
to mate with the larger
female.
“I have few doubts it’s
an adult male,” Glaw said.
Frank Glaw/AP Photo
This 2012 photo shows a newly discovered species of
chameleon, which is a contender for the title of world’s
smallest reptile. Scientists from Madagascar and Germa-
ny called it Brookesia nana and said the male appeared
is just 13.5-millimeters-long (a little more than a 1/2-inch.)
weather
66 people rescued
from ice fl oes adrift
on Wisconsin bay
STURGEON BAY,
Wis.— The U.S. Coast
Guard and several other
agencies rescued 66 people
stranded on ice fl oes in
a bay in northeastern
Wisconsin.
Ice boats and helicop-
ters were used to bring
the people who were ice
fi shing to safety Thursday,
Feb. 4, in Door County.
Three separate ice fl oes
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
31/42
Kennewick
30/44
St. Helens
29/43
27/44
THU
FRI
SAT
28/42
30/44
Partly cloudy
Mostly cloudy
Cloudy, p.m.
snow, 1-3”
A bit of snow;
very cold
Cold with snow
possible
Baker City
18 41 26
Comfort Index™
La Grande
3
21 43 28
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
3
36 18
3
16 38 25
Comfort Index™
3
0
32 15
23 10
30 20
0
0
0
31 16
2
24
0
9
0
0
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 87°
Low: -35°
Wettest: 1.18”
44°
25°
42°
33°
42°
35°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
0.00
0.01
0.15
0.38
0.95
Trace
Trace
0.26
1.04
1.89
0.01
0.48
0.59
4.79
3.76
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
30%
W at 6 to 12 mph
0.5
0.05
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
9% of capacity
47% of capacity
49% of capacity
44% of capacity
36% of capacity
96% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
1560 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
86 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
10 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
168 cfs
H H H H
Minam River at H Minam
119 cfs
Powder River near Richland
110 cfs
Fort Lauderdale, Fla.
Cotton, Minn.
Winter Haven, Fla.
OREGON
High: 55°
Low: 13°
Wettest: 0.04”
Rome
Klamath Falls
Astoria
WEATHER HISTORY
On Feb. 9, 1934, temperatures dropped
to 11 degrees below zero in Philadelphia
and 15 degrees below zero in New York
City. The temperature in Vanderbilt, Mich.,
dropped to 51 degrees below zero.
SUN & MOON
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
TUE.
WED.
7:03 a.m.
5:11 p.m.
6:07 a.m.
2:52 p.m.
7:01 a.m.
5:13 p.m.
6:51 a.m.
4:02 p.m.
MOON PHASES
New
Feb 11
First
Feb 19
Full
Feb 27
$
Last
Mar 5
21/47
21/43
Huntington
40/52
Brothers
21/43
Beaver Marsh
25/42
Roseburg
36/52
Burns
22/46
Jordan Valley
27/41
Paisley
24/47
Frenchglen
28/47
Klamath Falls
26/47
Hi/Lo/W
42/34/c
49/30/pc
45/29/pc
52/42/pc
44/29/pc
49/42/pc
47/34/c
34/24/c
38/27/sn
48/37/c
44/29/r
44/32/sn
38/22/c
43/24/c
37/23/c
43/26/c
47/30/pc
44/28/pc
Hi/Lo/W
40/28/sn
35/10/sn
45/29/sn
52/45/r
45/23/c
52/41/r
44/27/sn
35/22/sn
34/16/sn
49/30/r
33/19/c
32/21/sn
31/15/sn
38/19/sn
32/17/sn
33/15/sn
47/31/sn
44/29/sn
McDermitt
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
34/24/pc
44/35/c
39/27/sn
55/38/pc
46/38/c
39/28/c
48/31/pc
41/25/c
42/26/r
44/35/c
52/42/pc
47/26/pc
52/40/pc
46/35/c
27/10/pc
42/31/c
39/27/c
36/25/sn
Hi/Lo/W
27/15/sn
41/28/sn
34/14/sn
53/40/r
48/33/r
33/24/sn
43/29/sn
31/17/sn
27/15/sn
37/25/sn
53/42/r
32/12/sn
53/41/r
42/27/r
16/3/pc
31/20/c
29/11/sn
26/16/sn
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
UP TO
H H H H H
25/43
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
WED.
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PHILLIPS LAKE
Breezy in the p.m.
Mostly cloudy
24
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42
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BROWNLEE RES.
Cloudy and chilly
Mostly cloudy
28
23
40
28
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Mostly cloudy
Cloudy and chilly
28
19
34
23
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Mostly cloudy
Cloudy and chilly
37
23
42
25
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Rather cloudy
Mostly cloudy
41
26
43
SAVE
on se
24/49
Lakeview
23/44
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Grand View
Arock
27/48
Fields
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
THU.
Diamond
29/44
29/48
36/55
WED.
Boise
25/45
Silver Lake
25/48
Medford
Brookings
Juntura
22/44
39/56
39/52
25/48
27/45
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Ontario
18/37
33/48
Coos Bay
13/34
24/45
Seneca
25/49
Oakridge
Council
18/41
John Day
Bend
Elkton
Powers
21/43
19/40
24/48
Florence
SUNDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
Sisters
35/49
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
Eugene
38/48
Halfway
Granite
Baker City
Redmond
32/46
35/51
30 19
Monument
20/40
27/44
31/48
0
La Grande
21/43
28/47
Newport
H H 18
26 H 8 H H 28
0
3
Salem
Enterprise
16/38
19/34
25/44
Idanha
29/46
Corvallis
Elgin
20/38
25/42
Condon
Maupin
WED
24/36
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
29/44
Lewiston
20/34
Hood River
H H H H H
28/45
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by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2021
Walla Walla
21/43
Vancouver
28/43
TIllamook
TONIGHT
broke away after cracks
developed between the
shore and groups of
people, the Coast Guard
said.
High winds associ-
ated with an approaching
winter storm pushed the
fl oes further from shore.
No one was injured.
“Today’s success is
a direct result of effec-
tive training and the long
standing and close rela-
tionships with our agency
partners in the greater
Sturgeon Bay Area,” said
Cmdr. Bryan Swintek,
search and rescue coor-
dinator for Coast Guard
Sector Lake Michigan.
Coast Guard Ice Rescue
teams from Sturgeon
Bay, Coast Guard Cutter
Mobile Bay, two helicop-
ters from Traverse City,
Michigan, the Wisconsin
Department of Natural
Resources, and local gov-
ernment agencies assisted
in the rescue, which took
four hours to complete.
— Associated Press
“If we had a pair mating it
would obviously be better
proof.”
Confi rming Brookesia
nana as the smallest reptile
species will require fi nding
more of them, which might
take several years, he said.
The team’s research was
recently published in the
journal Scientifi c Reports.
Chameleons are threat-
ened by deforestation on
Madagascar, which is
home to numerous species.
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