6B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2020
COFFEE BREAK
Prenup becomes roadblock on couple’s path to the altar
DEAR ABBY: I have a
delightful, caring, loving man in
my life. We knew each other years
ago when we were married to
other people. Three
years ago, after a
couple of years of
courtship, he asked
me to move in.
We are great
together. He has
embraced my two children and
especially my two grandchildren
as he had none from his previous
marriage. Because I bring more
to his life than anyone, I pro-
posed to him seven months ago,
and he said yes. We talked, and
he requested a prenup, which is
fi ne with me because his ex took a
large sum of cash.
I have asked a few times since
the proposal if he has talked to
his cousin who is an attorney
he trusts, but I don’t believe this
is moving along. Because you
cannot make anyone do anything
they are not inclined to do, I have
stopped asking. He knows I need
fi nancial security.
I have always done right by him
— that is who I am. At this point,
I’m enjoying my life of privilege
with my doctor com-
panion, who loves
DEAR
me dearly but can’t
seem to honor our
ABBY
relationship and take
the next step. Am I
right to let it be?
— WAITING
DEAR WAITING: I agree that
you cannot make anyone do any-
thing they are not inclined to do.
Because drafting the prenuptial
agreement appears to be stalled,
raise the subject again and ask
if he regrets accepting your pro-
posal or if he’s ready to move for-
ward. He may like things just as
they are, and if you need more
than what he is willing to give,
you may have to move on. Three
years is enough time to decide if
he wants to make your romance
permanent.
DEAR ABBY: I think my par-
ents are letting my sister take
advantage of them. She has suf-
fered from depression most of her
life. She has children, ages 8 and
5. Before COVID, she was a stay-
at-home mom for six years.
In March, she asked my par-
ents to take in her 8-year-old for
schooling the rest of the year. For
the last several months, one or
both of her children have been
here at our house. She and her
husband live fi ve hours away, so
it’s not like they are nearby. Now
there’s discussion about my par-
ents keeping them into next year.
Mom retired last year and
has barely been able to enjoy her
retirement alone with my stepdad.
When my brother and I bring up
the topic of them enabling my
sister by letting her pawn her kids
off and blame her depression,
their response is, “Well, it’s better
than her going off the deep end.”
I also feel bad that those kids are
not with their parents in their own
house, instead of being schlepped
around. Am I wrong to think she’s
being allowed to get away with
being a bad parent?
— CONCERNED
DEAR CONCERNED: The
COVID-19 epidemic and subse-
quent quarantine have triggered
anxiety and serious depression in
people who were previously emo-
tionally resilient. That it could
cause a recurrence in someone
with chronic depression is no sur-
prise. Your mother and stepfather
are doing what they feel is best for
their grandchildren, your sister
and themselves. Accept it and quit
second-guessing them. They have
enough to deal with without you
adding more stress at this point.
DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old
daughter asked if her 23-year-old
best friend could stay with us for
six months. Her friend’s parents
had to return to Europe to fi nish
wrapping up some things and then
would return for their citizenship
appointments, so we agreed to the
arrangement. Rent-free, because
we are nice.
My daughter got a school
offer in Houston and moved there
in May. Now it’s just her best
friend and us at the house. Well,
COVID-19 happened, and the
parents are banned from entering
the U.S. They have asked us if she
can stay until the ban is lifted,
which who knows when this will
happen. We agreed, but now it’s
November.
I miss my personal space, and
I need her to move out. I feel she
has overstayed. But I don’t know
how to approach her or her family
and say this arrangement will end
soon. How should I handle this?
— CROWDED
DEAR CROWDED: You have
been more than generous to your
daughter’s best friend, and I hope
your generosity has been appreci-
ated not only by her but also her
parents. She is an adult, and she
needs to be told the arrangement
she had with you is coming to an
end. Set a date for her to leave
and notify her parents that they
may need to make other living
arrangements for her if she can’t
do it herself.
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Mysterious shiny
monolith found in
otherworldly Utah
desert
SALT LAKE CITY —
Deep in the Mars-like land-
scape of Utah’s red-rock
desert lies a mystery: A
gleaming metal monolith
in one of the most remote
parts of the state.
The smooth, tall struc-
ture was found during a
helicopter survey of bighorn
sheep in southeastern Utah,
offi cials said Monday.
A crew from the Utah
Department of Public
Safety and Division of
Wildlife Resources spotted
the gleaming object from
the air Nov. 18 and landed
to check it out during a
break from their work.
They found the three-
sided stainless-steel object
is about as tall as two men
put together. But they dis-
covered no clues about who
might have driven it into the
ground among the undu-
lating red rocks or why.
“This thing is not from
another world,” said Lt.
Nick Street of the Utah
Highway Patrol, part of
the Department of Public
Safety.
Still, it’s clear that it took
some planning and work to
construct the 10- to 12-foot
monolith and embed it in
the rock.
The exact location is so
remote that offi cials are
not revealing it publicly,
worried that people might
get lost or stranded trying
Lindsay Possumato/Ravensbeard Wildlife Center via AP
A Ravensbeard Wildlife Center employee on Wednesday,
Nov. 18, 2020, holds a Saw-whet owl. A worker helping
to get the Rockefeller Center Christmas tree in New York
City found the tiny owl among the tree’s branches on Mon-
day, Nov. 16. The owl was brought to the wildlife center
for care.
whet owl. The bird appar-
ently was trapped in the
75-foot-tall Norway spruce
when it was cut down 170
miles north in upstate
New York on Nov. 12. The
owl received the name
Rockefeller.
The female owl, ini-
tially thought to be male,
hadn’t eaten for at least
three days and was sent
to Ravensbeard Wild-
life Center in the Hudson
Valley town of Saugerties.
Ellen Kalish, the founder
and director of Ravens-
beard, said the owl was in
“great condition” with no
bone fractures apparent
after an X-ray.
A rehabilitator nursed
the owl back to health for
a week with plenty of mice
to eat before Rocky was
cleared to continue her
Utah Department of Public Safety via AP
State workers from the Utah Department of Public Safety
and Division of Wildlife Resources conducting a survey of
bighorn sheep in southeastern Utah spotted this gleam-
ing metal monolith, Utah offi cials said Monday, Nov. 23,
2020. The exact location is so remote that offi cials are not
revealing it publicly, worried that people might get lost or
stranded trying to fi nd it and need to be rescued.
to fi nd it and need to be
rescued.
The monolith evokes
the one that appears in the
Stanley Kubrick movie
“2001: A Space Odyssey.”
Because it’s on federal
public land, it’s illegal to
place art objects without
authorization.
Bureau of Land Man-
agement offi cials are inves-
tigating how long it’s been
there, who might have
created it and whether to
remove it.
Owl found in
Rockefeller Center
tree takes fl ight
SAUGERTIES, N.Y. —
A tiny owl found dehy-
drated and hungry in the
branches of the Rockefeller
Center Christmas tree ate
its way back to good health
and is back in the wild.
A worker setting up
the holiday tree Nov. 16 at
Manhattan’s Rockefeller
Center in Manhattan dis-
covered the tiny adult Saw-
weather
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Astoria
Longview
38/54
Kennewick
37/48
St. Helens
35/49
35/45
Condon
31/44
38/50
SUN
MON
TUE
WED
A moonlit sky
Periods of sun
Spotty afternoon
showers
Sunshine
Sunshine
42 22
43 16
41 17
Eugene
3
4
3
31/48
41 24
40 21
39 20
0
3
1
La Grande
25 42 32
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
2
3
1
27 41 32
Comfort Index™
3
36 20
3
4
3
ALMANAC
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Thursday
Low Thursday
High: 91°
Low: -8°
Wettest: 3.36”
46°
18°
42°
30°
41°
27°
0.00
0.22
0.77
3.22
9.04
0.11
2.13
1.76
16.01
14.63
0.15
4.71
2.67
33.69
20.30
PRECIPITATION (inches)
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
45%
S at 8 to 16 mph
2.7
0.05
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
8% of capacity
29% of capacity
44% of capacity
23% of capacity
22% of capacity
32% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
1060 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
0 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
10 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
114 cfs
Minam River at Minam
N.A.
Powder River near Richland
18 cfs
Kingsville, Texas
Daniel, Wyo.
Galesburg, Ill.
OREGON
High: 57°
Low: 16°
Wettest: 0.05”
Brookings
Rome
Newport
WEATHER HISTORY
Arctic winds dropped temperatures to as
low as 32 below zero in Minnesota on
Nov. 28, 1989. One year later, 60 new re-
cords for warmth were set in the Midwest
and Northeast.
SUN & MOON
SAT.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
7:08 a.m.
4:12 p.m.
3:33 p.m.
5:18 a.m.
SUN.
7:09 a.m.
4:12 p.m.
4:00 p.m.
6:22 a.m.
MOON PHASES
Full
Nov 30
Last
Dec 7
New
Dec 14
Beaver Marsh
Powers
40/59
First
Dec 21
31/50
Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
18/40
Paisley
14/45
20/45
Frenchglen
16/42
30/48
Klamath Falls
19/45
McDermitt
17/44
RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY
MON.
Hi/Lo/W Hi/Lo/W
54/42/pc 50/35/r
47/29/pc 47/19/i
43/24/pc 43/23/c
55/44/pc 54/41/r
39/17/pc 42/16/c
56/43/pc 53/38/r
46/33/pc 49/32/r
37/20/pc 37/14/r
43/34/pc 43/26/sh
48/36/c 51/31/r
43/28/pc 46/22/c
45/34/pc 46/31/c
47/37/pc 44/28/sh
43/27/pc 41/18/c
40/28/pc 39/19/c
41/30/pc 45/23/c
45/22/pc 42/22/c
44/22/pc 42/19/c
19/43
Lakeview
15/44
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Grand View
Arock
15/43
18/42
Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs.
SUN.
Diamond
17/40
Fields
Medford
Brookings
Boise
24/43
39/54
40/55
19/37
18/44
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
15/39
21/41
17/42
Roseburg
Ontario
22/41
Burns
Brothers
35/54
Coos Bay
Huntington
16/37
21/47
Oakridge
15/37
19/43
Seneca
Bend
Elkton
THURSDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
Thursday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
Florence
40/56
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
21/43
22/47
Council
20/40
John Day
23/50
Sisters
36/54
39 20
20/43
Baker City
Redmond
41/53
Halfway
Granite
16/38
34/53
35/45
39/53
40 22
3
Corvallis
26/45
33/46
Newport
Enterprise
27/41
25/42
Monument
28/44
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
3
Elgin
29/43
La Grande
27/42
Maupin
Comfort Index™
31/44
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
35/48
Lewiston
30/46
Hood River
28/42
39/53
20 40 25
Forecasts and graphics provided
by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2020
Walla Walla
28/41
Vancouver
34/49
TIllamook
Baker City
migratory journey south.
On Tuesday evening,
Nov. 24, Kalish held the
winsome raptor aloft in a
fi eld against a backdrop of
rounded mountains.
In a video posted on
Ravensbeard’s Facebook
page, Rocky sits quietly
on Kalish’s fi ngers before
winging her way over to a
nearby grove of pines.
“She is a tough little
bird and we’re happy to
see her back in her natural
habitat,” the center wrote
on Facebook. “We are sure
that Rocky will feel your
love and support through
her journey south.”
— Associated Press
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
SUN.
MON.
Hi/Lo/W
46/29/pc
48/39/pc
41/31/pc
48/33/pc
53/43/pc
50/36/c
41/18/pc
41/26/pc
42/30/pc
50/38/c
59/43/pc
50/31/pc
50/36/pc
45/35/pc
42/28/c
44/31/pc
41/30/pc
44/32/c
Hi/Lo/W
44/30/c
48/37/r
39/19/sh
46/33/r
51/36/r
48/34/r
38/23/c
44/24/c
45/28/sh
50/35/r
53/36/r
47/22/pc
49/34/r
49/34/r
38/25/c
47/31/pc
40/20/c
46/29/sh
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Partly sunny
Partly sunny
32
17
39
21
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Periods of sun
Partly sunny
39
30
41
27
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Partly sunny
Partly sunny
33
17
38
29
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Periods of sun
Sun, then clouds
40
28
43
31
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Partly sunny
Periods of sun
40
25
42
32