COFFEE BREAK
8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 29, 2019
Despondency intensifies as cold weather approaches
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been
thinking about suicide a lot
lately, more than usual. I’m
not angry about anything,
just in pain. I keep getting
knocked down after I try
so hard to pick myself up. I
tried calling a hotline, gave
up on that. (I guess they’re
busy.) I can’t afford doctors
and psychiatrists.
The
weather’s
changing, and
I don’t do well
in the cold.
I always get
down when the temperatures
drop. I love my home, but
sometimes I wonder if I’m
really happy here. I can’t
imagine leaving.
My kids live within a
couple hours’ drive. They
have beautiful kids of their
own. I’m going to miss them
dearly. I no longer feel I have
anything to offer in other
aspects of my life. I wonder
why I have to just exist.
I’ve heard people say when
someone dies “at least they’re
not in pain anymore.” That
sounds pretty good to me.
I guess I just really want-
ed to get this off my chest. I
don’t expect a miracle, but
thanks for listening.
— ANONYMOUS
IN ARKANSAS
DEAR ANONYMOUS:
You’re welcome. I’m glad
you shared your feelings.
You are NOT alone, and
there is help for you. Pick
up the phone and call 800-
273-8255. It’s the National
Suicide Prevention Lifeline,
and it is staffed 24 hours a
day by people who can help
you to form coping strategies
for your depression. I don’t
know what number you
called the fi rst time — you
may have misdialed — but
there IS help available,
and no one is “too busy” to
provide it. You simply have
to reach out for it. Please
don’t wait.
DEAR LOSING OUT: It’s
time for you and your wife
to put your heads together
and work out a solution.
By that I mean you should
accept the lucrative business
opportunity you have been
offered, AND your wife can
take care of her father as
long as she needs to. Unless
his condition is critical, she
can visit you and your sons
periodically so it shouldn’t
put too much strain on
your marriage. I hope you
will consider it because the
kind of resentment you are
feeling now can destroy a
marriage.
DEAR ABBY: My wife
and I have been together for
30 years, married for 20. We
have two sons living at home,
a 20-year-old who works
full-time and
a 17-year-old
DEAR
who is gradu-
ABBY
ating from
high school in
the spring.
I have been offered a
transfer to Australia by my
employer — a transfer I had
asked for. When we discussed
it in the past, everyone was
all for it. My oldest can likely
stay with the multinational
hotel chain he works for now,
and I can get my youngest
a decent career in my fi eld
of work as there is a tre-
mendous shortage of skilled
labor in Australia.
Now my wife tells me she
can’t leave her family, espe-
cially her father, who has
Parkinson’s. I have told her
she can expect to return every
summer to our condo on the
beach and an additional two
trips per year.
Abby, I thought our
vows meant we would be
together forever, wherever.
My employer will soon begin
the process of opening the
Australian offi ce, a process
I will be part of and likely
train the new hire. I am
bitter and resentful toward
my wife, and it is affecting
my attitude toward her. I
love her, but I am struggling
to get over the fact she is
denying me a very lucrative
opportunity. Advice?
— LOSING OUT
IN CANADA
boyfriend’s objective (and
yours) is to save enough
money to eventually own
a place of your own. His ex
and her mother are a means
to an end. It would be a big
mistake not to recognize
that they could be charging
far more for your lodgings.
Concentrate on that and
stop looking a gift horse in
the mouth.
Bank of Eastern Oregon
new
branch
DEAR ABBY: I moved in
with my boyfriend, “Greg,”
three years ago into the tiny
but very economical house
he rents. It’s cheaper than all
other rentals in our area and
allows us to save for a home
of our own one day. However,
after many months, I have
discovered to my dismay
that our landlord is the
mother of his ex-girlfriend.
And the ex is acting man-
ager of the property we live
on! This means that, for as
long as I’ve lived here, Greg’s
ex and her mom have been
in frequent contact with him
and are an inescapable part
of our lives.
Greg gets along fi ne with
them and doesn’t want to
move because of high rents
elsewhere, but I’m very
uncomfortable with the
awkwardness of our living
situation. Am I being too
sensitive, or should my boy-
friend never have lived there
in the fi rst place?
— UNCOMFORTABLE
IN MICHIGAN
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AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
27/44
Kennewick
22/39
St. Helens
23/41
26/41
TIllamook
22/35
20/33
26/42
27/41
Condon
FRI
SAT
SUN
MON
Mostly cloudy
and cold
Snow, up to 1”
Mainly cloudy
and cold
A thick cloud
cover
Times of clouds
and sun
26 12
30 20
35 19
Eugene
1
0
2
22/40
29 21
31 25
36 21
0
0
1
Comfort Index™
La Grande
0
17 27 12
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
2
0
0
14 25 13
Comfort Index™
2
32 22
36 21
1
0
3
0
ALMANAC
TUESDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Tuesday
Low Tuesday
High: 85°
Low: -16°
Wettest: 2.39”
36°
20°
35°
25°
36°
29°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Tuesday
Trace
Month to date
0.13
Normal month to date 0.77
Year to date
7.27
Normal year to date
9.02
Trace
0.36
1.76
13.46
14.59
0.28
0.57
2.67
26.42
20.22
HAY INFORMATION FRIDAY
50%
NW at 8 to 16 mph
0.2
0.03
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Wednesday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
22% of capacity
33% of capacity
64% of capacity
20% of capacity
31% of capacity
50% of capacity
High: 49°
Low: 14°
Wettest: 0.86”
Hermiston
Lakeview
Newport
Arctic winds dropped temperatures to as
low as 32 below zero in Minnesota on
Nov. 28, 1989. One year later, 60 new re-
cords for warmth were set in the Midwest
and Northeast.
SUN & MOON
THU.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
833 cfs
1 cfs
13 cfs
68 cfs
91 cfs
26 cfs
First
FRI.
7:07 a.m. 7:08 a.m.
4:13 p.m. 4:12 p.m.
9:15 a.m. 10:12 a.m.
6:11 p.m. 7:06 p.m.
Dec 3
Full
Dec 11
Last
Dec 18
Florence
Beaver Marsh
26/47
23/40
Silver Lake
New
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20/30
Paisley
16/29
10/32
Frenchglen
21/29
Medford
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
SAT.
Hi/Lo/W
44/27/s
25/6/s
34/16/pc
46/37/s
27/0/sn
46/30/s
40/21/s
34/15/pc
27/14/sn
40/24/s
34/18/s
35/18/s
33/18/sn
28/13/sn
26/13/sn
36/18/s
30/6/pc
28/6/pc
Hi/Lo/W
46/32/pc
26/17/c
34/17/pc
49/42/r
25/7/pc
47/39/r
40/27/c
28/13/c
29/18/c
40/30/c
34/19/pc
34/25/pc
36/23/c
33/22/pc
28/17/c
35/20/pc
34/23/sn
30/18/c
Grand View
Arock
20/28
25/35
22/33
22/31
Klamath Falls
8/30
Lakeview
11/28
McDermitt
Shown is Friday’s weather. Temperatures are Thursday night’s lows and Friday’s highs.
FRI.
Diamond
Fields
15/39
32/46
Boise
22/34
27/46
Brookings
20/33
13/29
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
13/27
9/23
10/31
Roseburg
Ontario
25/37
Burns
Brothers
22/41
Coos Bay
Powers
11/25
Oakridge
Huntington
14/24
Bend
Elkton
17/34
23/36
Seneca
20/30
RECREATION FORECAST FRIDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
MOON PHASES
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Tuesday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
OREGON
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Key West, Fla.
Laramie, Wyo.
Lafayette, La.
19/28
10/26
Council
15/29
John Day
11/24
Sisters
26/46
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
17/32
13/27
Baker City
Redmond
27/44
30/44
Halfway
Granite
22/40
Newport
23/41
27 16
14/28
19/39
24/41
Corvallis
Enterprise
14/25
17/27
Monument
12/26
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
15 29 10
Elgin
17/27
La Grande
11/22
Maupin
Baker City
21/28
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
23/30
Hood River
17/29
25/43
Lewiston
Walla Walla
22/36
Vancouver
Forecasts and graphics provided
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City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
FRI.
SAT.
Hi/Lo/W
30/22/sn
39/23/s
25/12/sn
39/20/pc
44/29/s
40/20/s
37/16/pc
37/20/s
29/18/s
42/24/s
47/30/s
24/1/s
40/24/pc
41/23/s
31/17/s
33/14/s
23/10/sn
28/18/s
Hi/Lo/W
32/20/c
42/30/pc
28/16/c
44/29/c
46/35/c
41/23/pc
34/16/pc
35/18/c
32/18/pc
42/32/pc
45/38/r
28/15/pc
42/36/c
42/29/c
31/18/c
32/21/pc
29/14/pc
30/19/pc
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
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ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Snow, up to 1”
Snow, up to 1”
18
3
28
7
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Snow, up to 1”
Snow, up to 1”
20
9
35
13
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Snow, up to 1”
Snow, up to 1”
19
4
20
7
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
A little snow
Very cold
26
13
27
16
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Snow, up to 1”
Snow, up to 1”
29
10
27
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