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10B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 2019
Old flame is on man’s mind Bahamas counting on sports
while marriage loses intimacy to aid Dorian recovery efforts
No. 13 Seton Hall — are as-
sisting recovery efforts. That
includes UNC senior Brandon
Robinson leading a donation
drive and Seton Hall raising
money for Bahamian relief
efforts.
“I think us and these teams
going down there, they’ll bring
light to the situation that the
Bahamas still needs help,”
Robinson said.
The Category 5 storm ham-
mered the northern Abaco
and Grand Bahama islands
in September before giving a
glancing blow to the southeast-
ern United States. There were
67 confirmed deaths and 282
people still missing as of late
October along with $3.4 billion
in losses for the Bahamas, ac-
cording to a recent report.
Dorian also impacted the
tourism industry, which fuels
the economy of a country
with about 700 islands —
some within 100 miles of the
Florida coast.
It is estimated tourism
represents 50% of the coun-
try’s GDP with 6 of 10 jobs
tied to tourism in a country
of fewer than 400,000 people.
Thompson said major tourism
areas were “not touched and
open for business,” including
the Nassau capital and the
Paradise Island home to the
Atlantis resort hosting the
tournament. Yet Thompson
said international arrivals fell
7.4% in September compared
to September 2018, the year’s
fi rst decline. Declines were
sharper for “leading” markets
like the U.S. (12.5%) and
Canada (15.3%).
That’s where upcoming
sporting events can help. The
Battle 4 Atlantis is one of the
premier events on the college
basketball early schedule
and Thompson estimates the
By Aaron Beard
DEAR ABBY: I am in a 14-year mar-
riage, but there has always been another
woman, “Emily,” I have thought about
almost daily the whole time. My wife and
I have just turned 40. We have no kids, but
we have a dog. I always thought I would
want kids, and we tried halfheartedly, but
there is no real intimacy to this day. I kiss
her goodbye in the morning and, for years,
that’s been it.
Emily is all in on a
relationship with me still
to this day. We had a great
relationship with great sex,
and I miss all of that. I’m
struggling about the right thing to do,
partly because I know the pain this will
cause.
My wife and I still have good times
together with friends, but when we’re home,
it’s like we’re just best friends with no
benefi ts. One of the last times we had sex,
she ended it abruptly. The fl ame I felt for
her is gone. I feel like I should go the other
direction because she wants kids and still
loves me deeply after all these years. Please
advise.
-- WRESTLING WITH IT IN
WISCONSIN
DEAR WRESTLING: Clearly you have
never stopped talking to Emily. Quit “wres-
tling” and talk with your WIFE. She may
have ended your last sexual encounter be-
cause it was physically painful or because
she no longer feels emotionally connected
to you.
The person who can help you determine
what to do next is the woman to whom you
are married. Whether this marriage is sal-
vageable is debatable, but this I do know:
A healthy marriage takes TWO committed
individuals, and in this case, one of them
(you) has been missing in action.
DEAR ABBY: Lately, I have been feeling
down with myself. For the last year or two,
I have been really insecure about the way I
look or act.
I’m overweight, and compared to my
grandmother, I look like I’m pregnant. The
way I act is strange. I talk to myself when
I’m alone. I prefer to keep to myself and
don’t really have any friends. At school, I eat
The Associated Press
lunch alone at my own table (literally).
I suffer from depression and anxiety, yet
my dad says I’m just overreacting. My sister
talks bad about me every day. I used to
cut, not because I’m suicidal, but because I
wanted to feel something different for once.
Dad forced me to stop.
I’m sorry this is all jumbled up. I’m not
great at explaining how I feel. How do I fi x
me?
-- HIDDEN IN
DEAR
PLAIN SIGHT
PARADISE ISLAND, Ba-
hamas — Any concern about
whether it was appropriate to
be playing sports in the Baha-
mas while parts of the multi-
island nation continue to dig
out from devastation following
Hurricane Dorian are quickly
dismissed by offi cials.
Bahamians not only want
the games, they’re counting
on them.
One of those events is the
Thanksgiving-week Battle 4
Atlantis men’s college basket-
ball tournament — during
which there will be broadcasts
of the islands’ famous beaches
and not just shots of the
wreckage Dorian left behind.
“What has happened is
after the storm, the word went
out that the Bahamas is dev-
astated,” said Ellison “Tommy”
Thompson, deputy director
general of the Bahamas Min-
istry of Tourism and Aviation.
“But they were not taking into
account that the Bahamas is
not one island.”
Tourism offi cials have gone
on an “educational tour” that
includes easing concerns visi-
tors might have about appear-
ing insensitive by vacationing
here.
“Persons have voiced that,”
Thompson said. “But we tell
them that the best thing you
can to help us is we need you
to come down and spend the
tourism dollars for us to be
able to have funds for recon-
struction. If you don’t come,
you’re going to put us in even
worse position.”
Participants in the sporting
events — including the eight-
team Atlantis tournament
opening Wednesday featuring
No. 6 North Carolina, No. 8
Gonzaga, No. 11 Oregon and
ABBY
DEAR HIDDEN: If it’s
any comfort, many people
talk to themselves. When I do it and someone
catches me, I explain that I’m talking with
my “most interesting conversationalist.”
I am, however, concerned that you are
socially isolated. This is something you
should discuss with your school counselor.
There is a national organization called
Beyond Differences that is dedicated to
ending social isolation among young people.
It started a program called “No One Eats
Alone.” It’s their most popular program,
and schools in all 50 states participate. It
educates students on how to make tangible
change in their own schools. The website is
beyonddifferences.org, and if your counselor
is not aware of it, he or she may fi nd it of
interest.
DEAR READERS: Tomorrow is Thanks-
giving, and no Thanksgiving would be
complete without sharing the traditional
prayer penned by my dear late mother:
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the
hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember
the sick.
We thank Thee for friends and remember
the friendless.
We thank Thee for freedom and remem-
ber the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to
service.
That Thy gifts to us may be used for others.
Amen.
Have a safe and happy celebration,
everyone!
-- Love, ABBY
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AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
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St. Helens
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Low: -1°
Wettest: 0.67”
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HAY INFORMATION THURSDAY
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RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Tuesday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
22% of capacity
33% of capacity
64% of capacity
20% of capacity
31% of capacity
50% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Monday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
OREGON
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loss of 200 lives. Many others were lost to
the raging sea in 50 small vessels. Boston
received more than a foot of snow.
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Fields
Medford
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Boise
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Silver Lake
Chiloquin
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Seneca
16/24
Oakridge
Council
20/34
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John Day
17/26
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Florence
31/44
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Baker City
Redmond
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Corvallis
Enterprise
19/31
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Monument
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Idanha
Salem
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23/33
La Grande
20/25
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Portland
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Baker City
men’s tournament attracts
8,000 visitors and $3 million
in economic impact through
lodging, meals, shopping, tours
and activities.
“In terms of business,”
Thompson said, “it’s extremely
lucrative for us.”
Jim Black, 53, of Dakota
Dunes, South Dakota said his
family stuck with travel plans
after researching that the
tournament area was fi ne.
“This is our fi rst time to
the Bahamas,” said Black, an
Iowa State alumnus sporting
a Cyclones cap who made the
trip with his wife, daughter
and daughter’s boyfriend.
“So we were kind of looking
forward to it back in February
when we got the tickets. So
when (Dorian) happened, it
was a little concerning that
there might not be a tourna-
ment and we’d have to make
other plans.
“I’m glad it all worked out.”
Other U.S. college events
include the four-team men’s
Junkanoo Jam (which ended
Sunday) and this week’s
women’s events: an eight-
team Junkanoo tournament
in Bimini and the fi ve-team
Bahamas Hoopfest in Nassau.
There’s even a college foot-
ball game: the Bahamas Bowl,
played Dec. 20 in the 15,000-
seat Thomas A. Robinson
National Stadium in Nassau.
Beyond college sports, Tiger
Woods hosts the Hero World
Challenge (early December) in
Albany with a fi eld featur-
ing Dustin Johnson, Justin
Thomas, Jordan Spieth and
Justin Rose. There are two
January events on the PGA
Tour’s developmental Korn
Ferry Tour there, though the
Great Abaco Classic has relo-
cated to Nassau due to Dorian
damage.
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