COFFEE BREAK 10B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 2019 Transgender woman strives to preserve marriage to wife Fire threat brings power cuts to thousands in California DEAR ABBY: I am a transgender female DEAR COMPLICATED: This situation who is working on my marriage to my wife is more common than many people realize, of 41 years. I started my transition in 2011. and the best way to stop nosy people from We have had our ups and downs during repeatedly asking questions would simply the course of our marriage. We have two sons be to say, “We are estranged.” Period. If and eight beautiful grandchildren. All of someone is so insensitive as to question you them know about my transition to woman- about why, you are free to say you prefer not hood, and my family also knows. What I to discuss it — now or ever. need now is some advice to help our mar- riage. We are strongly com- DEAR ABBY: What would mitted to working on it. you say about a married man DEAR — REAL ME IN OHIO who cultivates online friend- ABBY DEAR REAL YOU: Many ships with young women? He couples choose to stay to- is in contact with one of them gether and keep their mar- every hour, calling or texting. riage intact when one partner transitions. Mostly it is innocent, but there are very You and your wife can fi nd help — and warm texts that include “kisses” icons (“just support — at the nearest LGBT center that pictures, nothing more”). offers couples counseling. If there isn’t one He does not hide this from his wife. in your community, check the nearest large He tells her he is enjoying very much the city to where you live. communication with a young, beautiful You and your wife should also reach out woman. He says it is just a game for him, to the Straight Spouse Network, which has he has no feelings for them, he loves his been mentioned in my column before. This wife and only her (and she feels it strong- group was started in 1986 by Amity Pierce ly). Do you think this kind of communica- Buxton, Ph.D., and its mission is to build tion is acceptable? bridges of understanding for couples of — TRIVIAL FLIRT IN RUSSIA mixed sexual orientation or gender vari- DEAR TRIVIAL FLIRT: I don’t think ance. The contact information is straight- so. The husband may not be cheating on spouse.org. his wife in the classic sense, but calling and texting is not only disrespectful to the DEAR ABBY: I have two adult children wife he says he loves, but also to the young who are divorced and both live out of state. women who may not understand that it’s My son has no children, and my daughter “just a game.” has two who are now adults. I’m close to my son but have been estranged from my DEAR ABBY: I have been married for fi ve daughter and grandchildren for almost 20 years and together with my husband for 15. years. (There is no possibility of a I love him, and I try to look attractive for reconciliation.) him. I have not explained the details about this I recently got a shorter haircut that I situation to anyone. My close friends know thought looks nice. When my husband saw I have no contact with them and, thank- it, his reaction was, “It doesn’t look bad,” fully, to their credit, they haven’t asked. My and, “If you like it, that’s all that matters.” I co-workers, however, want to know about can’t help but feel slighted and a little hurt. my family. I have tried giving them generic Am I being too sensitive? information, such as “they live out of state,” — HURT IN WASHINGTON but a few keep asking for more details, such DEAR HURT: Maybe. Your husband is as when are they coming to visit, what do entitled to his reaction, and he was honest they do, etc. Some are being friendly, but a with you. Would you have preferred that he couple of them are busybodies. What can I lie? If you like the new hairstyle, keep it. If say to deter them and their questions with- you are having second thoughts, remember out being rude? it’s not an arm or a leg; it’s only hair, and it — COMPLICATED IN VIRGINIA will grow. SAN FRANCISCO — Thousands of people in Northern California woke up Tuesday without electricity after Pacifi c Gas & Electric cut power to try to prevent wildfi res amid windy, dry and hot conditions. PG&E cut electrical ser- vice to 24,000 customers in three counties in the Sierra Nevada foothills Monday evening, saying power will remain off until weather con- ditions improve. The utility said it may restore service briefl y on Tuesday before it cuts it Tuesday night. Butte County is where a wildfi re blamed on PG&E transmission lines killed 86 people last year and virtually leveled the town of Paradise. PG&E warned it might expand the precautionary outages on Tuesday to six additional counties if gusty winds and hot, dry weather continue. Thousands of others else- where may face power cuts as utilities seek to prevent wildfi res amid hot weather expected through Thursday. Red Flag warnings of fi re danger were in effect Tues- day north and east of San Francisco, and forecasters predict a brief burst of Santa Ana winds in Southern California. East and west of Los Angeles, nearly 90,000 Southern California Edison customers were advised they could be blacked out, but no Red Flag warnings were issued. Strong winds, low humid- ity and warm temperatures were forecast in the state weather The Associated Press Rich Pedroncelli/AP fi le photo In this Nov. 26, 2018, photo, a Pacifi c Gas & Electric line- man works to repair a power line in Paradise, California. through Wednesday, and au- thorities issued an extreme fi re danger warning for some areas. Wind gusts could reach 50 mph in the northern Sierra and foothills, and between 30 to 40 mph in the Sacramento Valley and near the Pa- cifi c coast, said Eric Kurth, a forecaster with the National Weather Service. “Humidity levels are drop- ping, and winds are picking up,” Kurth said. “The main threat is overnight when the winds pick up in the moun- tains and foothills.” Some of the most destruc- tive blazes in the state in the past two years were started by PG&E power lines. Winds can knock down live wires and power poles or drive trees and other vegetation into contact with them. PG&E fi rst cut off power preemptively last October, affecting some 87,000 cus- tomers. The move prompted complaints and demands for reimbursement. But the utility canceled AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 53/65 Kennewick 53/67 St. Helens 53/69 Hood River 57/69 54/73 55/69 51/70 Condon THU FRI SAT SUN Partly cloudy Clouds breaking Partly sunny Clouds and sun, a shower Cloudy, a shower; cold 69 35 52 30 51 28 Eugene 10 2 2 50/75 66 39 48 30 48 28 9 1 0 La Grande 45 69 48 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 9 9 42 65 45 Comfort Index™ 10 46 28 45 28 8 0 0 8 ALMANAC MONDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Monday Low Monday High: 103° Low: 16° Wettest: 2.41” 71° 44° 71° 51° 69° 51° PRECIPITATION (inches) Monday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date 0.00 0.74 0.44 7.03 7.51 0.00 1.17 0.50 12.46 11.37 0.13 1.62 0.61 22.43 15.64 HAY INFORMATION THURSDAY 35% WNW at 7 to 14 mph 6.7 0.13 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Tuesday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir 23% of capacity 27% of capacity 65% of capacity 43% of capacity 26% of capacity 6% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Monday) Grande Ronde at Troy Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder Burnt River near Unity Umatilla River near Gibbon Minam River at Minam Powder River near Richland OREGON High: 77° Low: 33° Wettest: Trace Ontario Klamath Falls Meacham On Sept. 25, 1994, violent thunderstorms in western Pennsylvania produced damag- ing hail. Golf ball-sized hail accumulated 8 inches at Arthurdale, Pa. SUN & MOON Sunrise Sunset Moonrise Moonset WED. THU. 6:42 a.m. 6:45 p.m. 2:25 a.m. 5:31 p.m. 6:44 a.m. 6:43 p.m. 3:43 a.m. 6:07 p.m. MOON PHASES 788 cfs 27 cfs 52 cfs 44 cfs 84 cfs 53 cfs New Sep 28 First Oct 5 Full Oct 13 Florence Beaver Marsh Powers 51/76 51/78 Silver Lake Last Oct 21 nee R d E O M oku, d u S , s g n i t s Show Li , Crosswords orts p S , h c r a e S Word re...? o M & s e z z i Qu Jordan Valley 41/73 Paisley 40/79 41/78 Frenchglen 44/77 Medford City Astoria Bend Boise Brookings Burns Coos Bay Corvallis Council Elgin Eugene Hermiston Hood River Imnaha John Day Joseph Kennewick Klamath Falls Lakeview FRI. Hi/Lo/W 65/52/sh 74/45/s 77/52/pc 77/56/pc 77/41/pc 69/52/pc 71/48/pc 70/47/pc 67/48/pc 75/50/pc 78/52/pc 69/54/sh 69/50/c 71/48/pc 66/45/c 80/51/s 80/42/s 78/38/s Hi/Lo/W 62/47/c 65/36/c 71/42/c 70/50/s 68/32/pc 64/48/c 65/45/c 69/39/c 64/39/pc 67/45/c 70/48/pc 62/46/c 69/43/c 65/38/pc 65/35/pc 72/47/pc 67/33/pc 68/33/pc Grand View Arock 44/80 41/78 44/80 Klamath Falls 41/80 Lakeview 38/78 McDermitt Shown is Thursday’s weather. Temperatures are Wednesday night’s lows and Thursday’s highs. THU. Diamond 44/74 Fields 50/82 61/77 Boise 48/77 52/85 Brookings 44/77 41/76 Chiloquin Grants Pass Juntura 35/77 42/71 40/73 Roseburg Ontario 44/79 Burns Brothers 47/74 Coos Bay Huntington 42/68 46/74 Oakridge 40/70 47/76 Seneca Bend Elkton Council 37/76 46/71 45/74 41/78 RECREATION FORECAST THURSDAY REGIONAL CITIES WEATHER HISTORY AGRICULTURAL INFO. Lowest relative humidity Afternoon wind Hours of sunshine Evapotranspiration Death Valley, Calif. Angel Fire, N.M. Whitefi eld, N.H. 39/67 John Day 43/76 Sisters 53/69 Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 40/74 Baker City Redmond 53/65 55/67 Halfway Granite 51/71 Newport 51/74 64 35 45/73 48/67 51/71 Corvallis Enterprise 42/65 45/69 Monument 50/72 Idanha Salem TONIGHT 10 43/67 La Grande 50/68 Maupin Comfort Index™ 10 Elgin Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg Lewiston 50/72 55/73 50/73 TIllamook 37 76 46 Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2019 Walla Walla 55/80 Vancouver 52/67 50/66 Baker City plans to shut off power ahead of the deadly Nov. 8 blaze that started near Paradise. An investigation by Cal Fire said transmission lines owned and operated by the utility started the fi re that wiped out nearly 15,000 homes. California regulators in May approved allowing utilities to cut off electric- ity to avoid catastrophic wildfi res but said utilities must do a better job ramping up preventive efforts and educating and notifying the public, particularly people with disabilities and others who are vulnerable. In January, PG&E sought bankruptcy protection, saying it could not afford an estimated $30 billion in potential damages from lawsuits stemming from catastrophic wildfi res. Earlier this month, PG&E agreed to pay $11 billion to insurance companies holding 85% of the claims from fi res that include the Paradise blaze. City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla THU. FRI. 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