COFFEE BREAK
8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019
Friend wants to be ready
when man asks for help
Bahamas tackles massive
clean-up after Dorian
DEAR ABBY: I’m watching the slow-motion
DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married
destruction of a childhood friend on Facebook.
(for the most part) to my husband of 40 years.
There is substance abuse, infi delity, divorce, the
He is a good husband, provider and father. Only
whole lot. It hurts.
one thing about him really bothers me. When he
He recently admitted that he has struggled
is telling someone a story, he frequently “embel-
with depression for years, but insists he isn’t
lishes” it and changes it to something that’s not
interested in seeing a doctor or a counselor. It
actually the truth.
sounds like he’s been burned in the past. I know
What he says doesn’t really matter or hurt
I can’t do anything until he asks for help, but I
anyone, but it still bothers me. It makes me
intend to be there when he does. What resources wonder if what he is telling me about something
are available for someone who
is the correct version or “his”
is clinically depressed and self-
version.
DEAR
medicating?
Like I said, it is never any-
ABBY
— TRYING TO HELP IN
thing of importance, so I don’t
THE WEST
understand why he even does it.
DEAR TRYING: Support
I have asked him about it, and
groups for people who are depressed and/or
he doesn’t really explain. Do you have any idea
have emotional issues exist. But to join one,
what would make a person do this?
the person must admit there is a problem and
— WIFE IN WONDERLAND
help is needed. Because your friend is resistant
DEAR WIFE: Some people “embellish” to
to the idea of professional help, you might sug-
impress or to make themselves look more
gest a group called Emotions Anonymous. It
important, or because they think it will make
was started in 1971, and its mission is to help
the story more entertaining or exciting. Not
people who are experiencing emotional diffi cul- knowing your husband, I can’t answer for him.
ties. It offers chat, Skype and phone meetings
It might help to reassure him that you love
as well as in-person groups. If you would like
him just the way he is, and the truth is always
more information, you can fi nd it at emotion-
better than fi ction.
sanonymous.org.
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend I connect with
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating this woman on many different levels. It’s amazing. But he’s
for a few years. We aren’t in a committed rela-
already in a relationship. He tells me he loves
tionship, but she wants me exclusively to herself. me and doesn’t ever want to lose me, but he
She’s a very jealous type, and a comment she
never talks about leaving her. He says things
made took me over the edge.
will naturally work themselves out.
She told me that my late wife’s picture should
Although he says he isn’t trying to have his
only be displayed in my children’s room, and
cake and eat it too, that is exactly how it feels at
that I’m still holding onto her, which is prevent- times. I’m confused about what to do. My heart
ing me from moving forward with any woman. and my head are at odds. Please give me some
I will never remove any pictures of my children’s advice that will help me settle my inner self.
mother out of respect not only for my departed
— CONFUSED GIRL IN LOVE
loved one but for my children as well. What do
DEAR CONFUSED GIRL: As it stands,
you think of this?
your friend has two women, and you have half
— RESPECTFUL IN TEXAS a man. He may love you, but if he was IN love
DEAR RESPECTFUL: If you keep a photo
with you, he would end the relationship with
of your late wife next to your bed, I can see
his girlfriend. He never talks about leaving her
how it might bother someone you have been
because he doesn’t intend to rock the boat.
dating for a few years — particularly if you
I know the idea of breaking things off is pain-
haven’t made a commitment to her. That said,
ful, but while you have romantic feelings for this
if displaying a picture of your wife in a public
person, you won’t be free to find anybody else.
room of your home is so threatening to this
You deserve someone who is willing to make
woman that she would make the kind of scene the same kind of commitment to you that you
you describe, it may be time to replace her with are willing to make to him. Repeat that to your-
someone who is less easily threatened.
self daily until he’s out of your system.
By Danica Coto
weather
HIGH ROCK, Bahamas — Pastor
Jeremiah Saunders stood in the golden
afternoon sun and barely blinked as he de-
bated what to pick out from the ruins of the
church he built 22 years ago in the seaside
village of High Rock on the eastern end of
Grand Bahama island.
A black-and-blue necktie fl oated in a pool
of water. Nearby, a ruptured set of drums
lay toppled on its side. Bone-white sea
shells were nestled in tufts of grass, fl ung
there by the surging fl oodwaters that had
carried Saunders for 200 yards until he
managed to grab hold of a large pine tree
branch, where he spent two days after Hur-
ricane Dorian crashed ashore.
“I spoke to the water: ‘Peace, be still.’ It
never listened,” he said with a wide smile.
But then he grew serious as he focused on
the daunting cleanup facing the tens of
thousands who live on Grand Bahama and
Abaco, the two northern islands that were
devastated by the Category 5 storm.
It will be a slow process that some are
tackling in very small steps. Saunders
picked out two hammers, fi ve screwdrivers
and three treasured Bibles.
In contrast, 67-year-old Mary Glinton
in the nearby fi shing village of McLean’s
Town wasted no time getting rid of all her
ruined possessions. She created three piles
of clothes stiffened by mud and set them on
fi re. A once-white lace curtain, a muddied
pink wind-breaker and a pair of black pants
all went into the fl ames. She most lamented
that all her church clothes were ruined.
“I love blue, and most of my dresses are
blue,” she said standing near the fi re in
green fl ip-fl ops, her legs caked with mud.
She also mourned the loss of her 1-year-old
pet hog, Princess.
A preliminary report estimates Dorian
caused some $7 billion in damage, but the gov-
ernment has not yet offered any figures. Crews
have started to remove some debris on the
islands, but they are moving slowly to avoid
accidentally disturbing any bodies lying in the
rubble. The official death toll stands at 50, and
Prime Minister Hubert Minnis said he expects
the number to significantly increase.
About 2,500 people are listed as miss-
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
57/69
Kennewick
57/70
St. Helens
58/73
58/76
56/80
60/75
55/74
Condon
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Partly sunny and
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A p.m. shower
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Mostly cloudy
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66 43
63 39
Eugene
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Enterprise
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NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High: 103°
Low: 21°
Wettest: 3.95”
70°
47°
72°
48°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Wednesday
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Year to date
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0.23
0.22
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7.29
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0.93
0.23
12.22
11.10
0.54
1.00
0.27
21.81
15.30
HAY INFORMATION SATURDAY
30%
WSW at 4 to 8 mph
7.0
0.15
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Thursday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
54/75
24% of capacity
31% of capacity
69% of capacity
48% of capacity
31% of capacity
11% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Wednesday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
OREGON
Hermiston
Lakeview
Pendleton
High: 81°
Low: 31°
Wettest: 0.01”
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69 cfs
95 cfs
44 cfs
101 cfs
60 cfs
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7:08 p.m.
7:25 p.m.
5:44 a.m.
SAT.
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7:06 p.m.
7:48 p.m.
6:45 a.m.
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Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
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Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
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Kennewick
Klamath Falls
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67/54/s
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Arock
51/87
48/87
49/90
Klamath Falls
40/84
Lakeview
39/84
McDermitt
Shown is Saturday’s weather. Temperatures are Friday night’s lows and Saturday’s highs.
SAT.
Diamond
46/83
Fields
Medford
Brookings
Boise
55/85
55/88
54/67
48/85
42/82
48/85
RECREATION FORECAST SATURDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
On Sept. 13, 1857, a hurricane off the
Florida coast was blamed for sinking a
passenger steamer. More than 200 aboard
lost their lives. Over $2 million in gold
went down with the ship.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
54/80
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Bodie State Park, Calif.
Madison, S.D.
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Powers
Chiloquin
High Wednesday
Low Wednesday
74°
41°
Beaver Marsh
Juntura
43/85
44/79
41/78
Ontario
51/86
Burns
Brothers
54/77
Roseburg
Huntington
45/79
Bend
Coos Bay
48/80
55/84
Seneca
47/80
Oakridge
Council
44/83
48/82
46/80
Elkton
WED. EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
43/76
John Day
46/82
Sisters
Florence
56/67
48/84
Baker City
Redmond
54/67
55/69
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
ALMANAC
Newport
Halfway
Granite
53/75
54/75
77 47
50/83
51/75
54/75
Corvallis
Enterprise
45/77
50/80
Monument
52/79
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
9
Elgin
48/78
La Grande
52/74
Maupin
Comfort Index™
61/80
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
Lewiston
56/79
Hood River
55/80
TIllamook
44 83 46
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Walla Walla
59/83
Vancouver
55/72
54/68
Baker City
ing in the hurricane’s aftermath, although
the government has cautioned that it still
needs to check names against the rosters
of people evacuated from the devastated
islands or staying in shelters.
On Thursday, a cluster of heavy thunder-
storms heading to the Bahamas threatened
to further drench those trying to salvage
belongings or living in tents in hard-hit
communities. Late in the day, the U.S.
National Hurricane Center said the system
was expected to become a tropical storm
within 36 hours and would hit parts of
the northwestern Bahamas with tropical
storm-force winds and heavy rains.
USAID offi cials, meanwhile, said they
would distribute plastic sheeting ahead of
the storm.
As the cleanup continued, the fi rst hints
of normalcy could be seen in Freeport, a
city on Grand Bahama that is operated by
a private company, which provides utilities
and charges residents without any govern-
ment involvement. Lights began to fl icker
on in some neighborhoods, and crews were
seen repairing transformers in other areas.
Among those celebrating the return of
electricity was Clifton Williams, who was
driving home from work on Wednesday
when he saw an illuminated streetlight for
the fi rst time since the hurricane.
“I didn’t expect that so quickly,” he said.
“First thing I do, I cut on the fan and cool
off myself,” he added, saying he slept well
for the fi rst time in more than a week
thanks to the fan.
But the small villages that dot the east-
ern coast of Grand Bahama have barely
received any help. Some residents have
been hitchhiking daily from Freeport to
their destroyed homes to sort through their
belongings and clean up.
Tereha Davis, a 45-year-old fi sherwoman,
said she was unable to fi nd a ride one day
and ended up walking eight miles under the
blistering sun. She piled up the things she
managed to salvage until she could fi nd a
ride back to Freeport with her few remain-
ing possessions. On Wednesday, she walked
through McLean’s Town wearing purple
surgical gloves, taking a break from cleaning
as she looked for something sweet to drink
for a boost of energy. She found nothing.
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Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
SAT.
SUN.
Hi/Lo/W
79/55/pc
70/58/c
77/45/pc
87/54/s
67/55/pc
68/55/c
86/51/s
84/58/pc
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75/59/pc
75/53/pc
82/46/pc
80/55/pc
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80/56/pc
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64/53/sh
71/46/sh
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64/52/sh
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65/56/sh
65/53/sh
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Nice with some sun
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BROWNLEE RES.
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Partly sunny; nice
67
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83
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EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Partial sunshine
Partly sunny; nice
65
42
73
41
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Partly sunny; nice
Nice with some sun
78
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80
50
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Partly sunny
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