Uni ABPIflUEC ^'nc* ODE stories since 1994 Ulll Hnulllilu ©www.dailyemerald.com I® • computerized gate access • credit cards accepted -• open 7 days/week student sizes available • resident managers Eugene • 688-3835 1601 Hwy. 99 North • Eugene, OR 97402 months for the price of«j • FREE Track Use (some restrictions apply) * Refer a friend and get $10 off next month’s rent. 014107 Special move-in incentives available at this classy alternative. * One and a half miles to campus * Near bike path & bus station * Outstanding landscaping * Controlled access * Broadway Market Bene Gourmet Pizza, Savoure' French Tea & Crystal Shop at street level Broadway Place APARTMENTS 255 West Broadway, Eugene (541) 242-1077 Office open 6 days a week www.broadwaypl.com Managed by W* TElc Couples share concerns, benefits of cohabitation Thoughtful planning can help student couples decide whether or not to live under one roof Tynan DeLong Freelance Reporter Cohabitation. The word alone might send couples into pre-marital paranoia. Minds race frantically with the idea of seeing the same face every waking moment. Those accustomed to Texas sized space bubbles recoil at the utterance of “the next step.” Yet, year after year, couples make the decision to live together — and re portedly 30 to 40 percent of college students do also, ac cording to a study by author Roland Johnson, III. Whether it means a life time together or a nine month lease that feels like a lifetime, this turning point decides the fate of many young couples. Careful plan ning may help couples decide if moving in together is the best idea. Graduated senior Clay Carter said he enjoys the benefits of cohabitation. “You’re in close proximity, and you see them every night,” Carter said. “As long as you get along, it’s nice if you have a busy schedule.” For some students, it may be a matter of convenience. “If it’s an issue of having two houses, you might as well condense,” said graduated senior Mark Zillmann, who said he and his girlfriend were always together, even when they were living apart. “But, it’s up to the individu als — whether it suits the rela tionship or not,” he added. Not all students have good experiences living with their significant others. Lane Community College junior William Kistler said his first live-in experience had adverse effects on his own personal life, and it hampered the relationship’s progress. “I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was so naive,” Kistler said. “Moving in to gether caused me to suppress the behavior I enjoyed when I was alone, and consequen tially, it caused our relation ship to fall apart.” If the relationship fails, the friendship can often become a complementary casualty. Eugene resident Ross Topel, wary of cohabitation’s pitfalls, said he decided against the big leap. “I didn’t do it because one of two things were going to happen,” Topel said. “One, I would never hang out with or see her again because liv ing together often does that, and two, it would screw up our friendship.” Kistler said he had those exact kinds of problems. “I got out of the situation the minute the lease broke,” "You need to have your own personal space. When you're living with someone/ that person is invading your habitat, and it can be disastrous" Ross Topel Eugene resident Kistler said. “I totally de parted from our relation ship, and we didn’t speak for six months.” Many blame a lack of space as the point of con tention for most live-in rela tionships. For those accus tomed to living alone, inviting another to share the space can lead to unmanage able circumstances. “It wears a couple down,” junior Ashley Patterson said. “Sharing the same space all the time doesn’t leave much room to breathe.” Topel agreed. “You need to have your own personal space,” Topel said. “When you’re living with someone, that person is in vading your habitat, and it can be disastrous.” For those living together, however, finding a balance can be key to a healthy liv ing situation. “Each person needs to have their own space,” said Garter. “It’s easy to get bogged down when you don’t allow time to yourself.” Zillmann has similar sentiment. “She does her thing, I do mine,” said Zillmann. “You need to have two different lives.” Despite the drawbacks, the number of couples cohabiting increases each year. But, some studies also show those who live together prior to marriage have higher levels of dissolution in their relation ships. The study by Johnson claims “only one couple in five who cohabitate ever ends up getting married.” “At all costs, people should avoid living as a couple until you’re married,” Kistler said. “I think it’s self-destructive to domesticate prematurely and honestly, I won’t be living with another girl until I get married. But if you’re going to do it, think about it first.” Tynan DeLong is a freelance writer for the Emerald. “Our Mistake, YOUR PRICE BREAK!” WE ARE KING KOIL FIRM SUPPORT TWIN SET $169°° FULL SET $199°° QUEEN SET $259°° 10-Year Warranty KING KOIL SUPER PLUSH TWIN SET $239°° FULL SET $289°° QUEEN SET $359°° KING SET $459°° 10-Year Warranty TWIN SET *299°° FULL SET $359°° QUEEN SET $399°° KING SET $599°° 10-Year Warranty 4075 w. 1 ith • 343-2690 Monday - Saturday 9-6 • Sunday 11-5 Jr AMERICAN MATTRESS MANUFACTURING z'—ODE Classifieds... Worth Looking Into!