Newsroom: (541) 346-5511 Suite 300, Erb Memorial Union P.O. Box 3159, Eugene, OR 97403 Email: editor@dailyemerald.com Online Edition: www.dailyemerald.com -Oregon Daily Emerald Commentary Editor in Chief: Michael J. Kleckner Managing Editor Jessica Richelderfer Editorial Page Assistant: Salena De La Cruz Monday, May 12,2003 Editorial Sexual abuse isn’t about sex; we must take back control It’s not about sex, really. Real sex is mutual. Real sex involves communication, and partners are respectful about the limits and boundaries of the other. Real sex is responsible. It means shared pleasure for partners and is often an expression of love. Sexual assault or sexual abuse is about having control over another person. It happens when someone chooses to take away another person’s right to decide what hap pens to his or her own body. It is an act of violence. Sexual violence happens in this community, and it af fects us all. Through participating in events offered this week, many community members are paying closer at tention to the realities of sexual assault and are making commitments toward ending sexual violence. We are taking the opportunity to learn about how al cohol is used to facilitate rape — that a drunk person of ten isn’t able to consent to sex, and that sex without con sent is rape. We are seeking to better understand the connections between sexual violence and other forms of oppression that exist in our society — including, but not limited to: sexism, racism, heterosexism, exploitation of children, youth and elders, those with disabilities, those with fewer socioeconomic resources, those who identify as trans gender, and those who do not practice the dominant reli gion or communicate in the dominant language. All of us know at least one person who is a survivor of sexual assault or abuse — even if they have never told us about it. One way to show our support and help break the silence that surrounds sexual violence and violence against women in our community is through participat ing in Take Back the Night and other events happening this week. This editorial was written for the Emerald by Michelie Edwards, community education program coordinator for Sexual Assault Support Services, a non-profit agency dedicated to ending oppression and sexual violence through education, support services, outreach and empowerment in Lane County, Oregon. Bush’s carrot may be riskier than his stick As former Secretary of State James Baker so patiently explained to Ali G, international diplomacy is a game of sticks and carrots. Now that President George W. Bush has proven to the world the proficiency with which he wields his stick, he is turning to the less arousing but still satisfying task of doling out the post-engagement carrots. Thus, New Europe is reaping the rewards of its amenabil ity toward the Iraq war, while Old Europe is being ad monished for its recalcitrance. The United States on Thursday endorsed seven East ern European countries for inclusion in NATO, while pro posing a backseat advisory role for the United Nations in the reconstruction of Iraq. Both of these moves are cal culated to reduce French and German influence, which could very well deepen the rift that has ruptured the Western alliance. Bush, in demanding what amounts to a doting fealty from allies, risks the demise of a balance of power that America itself worked so hard to create. That’s a hard carrot to swallow. Editorial policy This editorial represents the opinion of the Emerald editorial board, Responses can be sent to letters ^dailyemeraldxam*. . t I Peter Utsey Emerald Turning back the clnck nn civil rights I wonder what part or the world Al bany, Ga., is in. More importantly, what part of the world does Taylor County High School belong to? Apparently, it’s the 1800s, when slavery and segregation were all right. Last year, the high school took leaps and bounds by hosting ‘the first integrat ed prom’ in 31 years (“Some stu dents choose not to integrate prom,” The Register Guard, May 2). The first, the first... I’m speech less, and that’s a first. Has society, this nation, advanced so little that the com munity is willing to spend the money for two separate proms because they fear interracial dating? According to Savannah Now Newspa pers, in 2002 students voted unanimous ly to have an integrated prom. But ac cording to those same reports, Taylor County isn’t the only school to opt to for go the school-sponsored dances or events. Most students find themselves at country clubs or dance halls. According to CNN, up until last year, the school officials stopped sponsoring dances because they feared interracial dating. Salena DeLaCruz Say it loud Every year, parents and students would or ganize the events. Apparently, the school thinks that problems only arise when people date people of different colors. Oh, right, white couples have absolutely no rela tionship woes. So, I guess that means that I’m not allowed to date Mexicans or Irish because that’s what I am. Please! No one in this nation is pure white. You see, in good ol’ Taylor County it’s OK to not like the “colored folk,” as people in this country’s more ignorant days would call black people. Thank you, Taylor Coun ty High School, for slamming the civil rights movement back several decades. I thought we were in the 21st century. There were just a few students that wanted an all-white prom. Why do they get their way when they are not even the majority? Obviously, the school admin istrators need a lesson of their own — one of reaching out to the majority and still including the minority. Students can go to both if they want. Well, that’s inter esting. It’s not enough that white stu dents get an all-white prom; they get to go to one where the students actually have advanced into the 21st century. Gerica McCrary, a senior this year, helped to organize the integrated prom last year and was reportedly very upset by the separate proms. She told the As sociated Press, “I cried. The black juniors said, ‘Our prom is open to everyone.’” Maybe it’s a sign of the environment this school allows. I believe, for every one person that submits, it makes it that much harder to advance. The school has 439 students, and 232 of them are black. The school board should be reaching out to all students by having one prom, one school, for one cause. Why did this have to turn into a black-and-white issue? Why bring color into a time of fun, a time of memories? Why not just let it be a bunch of classmates getting together to have some fun? If I was a student at Taylor County, I would remember my prom for the segre gation — because no matter how much fun was had, I would remember the tears behind the disco ball. If I was a student, I would shout out to the school adminis trators that I would not accept segrega tion of a time-honored event: a time of happiness, friends and fun. I would shout this is not a time to divide colors, to re mind people of hatred. There is no place for hatred or dis crimination. This is a time to dance and to forget about everything else. This is the students’ time. Contact the columnist at salenadelacruz@dailyemerald.com. Her opinions do not necessarily represent those of the Emerald. Online poll Each week, the Emerald publishes the previous week’s poll results and the coming week’s poll question. Visit www.dailyemerald.com to vote. Last week; Do you agree with the Bush administration’s Healthy Forest Initiative? Results: 90 total votes Yes, increased logging wiii help to prevent forest fires — 18.9 percent, or 17 votes Yes, the forests are there to be logged — i 8.9 percent, or 17 votes No, there are other more effective alternatives — 20 percent, or 18 votes No, leave the forests alone!—28.9 percent, or 26 votes What Healthy Forest initiative?—6.7 percent, or 6 votes Leave me alone!—6.7 percent, or 6 votes This week: What do you think of homosexuality on campus? Choices: It’s disgusting and should be hidden; It should be out and proud; Everyone should be able to feel comfortable on campus; No sexuality should be publicly displayed on campus; I don’t care; Leave me alonel CORRECTIONS The person pictured in the photo accompanying Tuesday's article about the Prefontaine Classic (“’El C won’t run Pre Classic mile, but Webb might," ODE, May 6) was ac tually William Chircher. William Chircher will not run at the Pre this year, while Cornelius Chircher will, Friday’s article about the Race Against Racism (“Race combats local prejudice,” ODE, May 9) should have listed this Thursday as the deadline to register. Regis trations will also be taken the day of the rate.