After breakup, woman
dazed and confused
Dear Harlan,
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about a
month ago — all my idea. I didn’t think it
was fair to continue dating him when I
just didn’t feel the same way about him. I
simply fell out of love with him. This hap
pened nine months into our relationship,
and it was picture perfect until it seemed
like overnight I felt differently.
He’s really taking it hard and I feel just
awful. I don’t understand what went
wrong. He was respectful of my beliefs
and incredibly sweet and supportive. He
still wants to be friends, but I don’t know
if I can because I feel incredibly uncom
fortable. I’m still battling with myself why
this happened, and he keeps calling, look
ing for answers that I can’t give him. He
tells me he’s not ready to move on, but I
am, and if I do how can I remain friends
with him?
— Ahhh
Dear Ahhh,
He’s thinking things are going great.
He’s psyched about his new bathing suit
for the summer. He’s thinking possible
marriage, kids, a life of endless happiness
and... BOOM.
Love sucks.
All he could ask from you is that you be
honest with him, and you honestly seem
confused. So, let him know that in order
for you to figure out what you want and
need, you first need some more space.
As horribly hard as it might seem, he
needs to respect you. No matter how you
approach things, he’s going to hurt. If you
frame it as you having to help yourself,
he’ll at least know it’s not him, but you.
And whatever you do, don’t play
games. If you say you can’t talk to him,
don’t call him up two weeks later to say
"hi" unless you’re ready to be his friend.
Playing games with someone's emotions
is far from loving.
ADVICE
Dear Harlan,
One day back in November my friends
and I were headed back to campus at 1:30
in the morning after a night out. We were
pulled over and were immediately taken
out of the car and searched. Unfortunately,
I had a joint in my pocket and was
whisked away to the police department.
I'm now two months into my one-year
probation, but my parole officer informed
me that my arrest may not clear my record
by the time I wish to apply for a job. It is
sad that my future may be affected by
such a meaningless and harmless crime,
but it can happen to anyone.
Word to the wise, if you are in car and
you have drugs, you are in danger. You do
not have any rights because a determined
cop will always find what you have in
your pocket. The courts aren't fair either.
Good luck stoners and beware.
— F. Justice
Dear Justice,
And who is supposed to feel sorry for
you? This isn't so shocking — when you
transport drugs you're going to get in
trouble. It's not a big secret. And this isn't
about a determined cop. It's about a
dumb guy (you) packing a joint in his
pocket and taking a risk and getting bust
ed. You might be a smart guy every other
moment, but your momentary lapse of
judgment might haunt you for a lifetime.
It might be a good idea to think about
your drug habit while hanging out in
court.
Harlan is not a licensed psychologist, therapist or
physician, but he is a licensed driver. Write Harlan
via e-mail at harlan@helpmeharlan.com or on
line at: www.helpmeharlan.com. All letters sub
mitted become the property of the column.
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■ The historic house on campus
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By Joe Walsh
Oregon Daily Emerald
It seems that people are just plain scared
of the Collier House.
It took this reporter three years to finally
step foot in there, and I don’t personally
know anyone else who has. I imagine there
are many who walk by the beautiful and his
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middle of campus
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The Collier House offers an alternative
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