Abuse
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said Krista Gragg, an intern at the
Counseling Center who specializes
in abuse issues. She said it is not
known exactly how many students
are involved in abusive relation
ships because most go unreported.
Corrina Falkenstein, a junior in
psychology and women’s studies,
takes part in a women’s discus
sion group and said she sees peo
ple at the University who don’t
think abuse is happening.
“I’m hearing about more fre
quent cases of acquaintance rape
and maybe students having a false
sense of security, thinking the
danger has been removed,”
Falkenstein said.
Ninety to 95 percent of domestic
violence victims are women, and as
much as 95 percent of perpetrators
are male, according to statistics pub
lished by the Oregon Governor’s
Task Force on Domestic Violence.
Gay and lesbian relationships
are just as likely to have abuse, but
homosexuals have fewer social
supports and less legal recourse, so
much goes unreported, Evans said.
Gragg added that the causes of
abuse are similar in gay and lesbian
relationships in terms of threats,
but the actions may change.
“Threatening to ‘out’ your part
ner is more common,” Gragg said.
This form of “outing” means one
partner threatens to expose the
other as gay or lesbian when they
haven’t made it publicly known.
Persistent put-downs or state
ments that diminish one’s worth
and ability can be used by abusers
to maintain a sense of power, su
periority and control, according to
a report published by the task
force. Abusive partners often feel
powerless in the larger world, and
the relationship may be the only
place they feel power. Controlling
behavior results from this need to
take charge. At a deep emotional
level, abusers often feel they are
not good enough and fear aban
donment, according to the report.
Other signs of abuse include in
tense jealousy of friends, family or
other outside social contact.
Yelling, shouting, intimidation
and interrogation of a partner be
cause he or she has spent time with
other people can be signs of abuse.
Partners of abusers often en
gage in “enabling behavior,”
which means taking care of the
abusive partner, making excuses
for him or her and going along
with the pattern of abuse.
Students who think they are be
ing abused should maintain outside
relationships and avoid isolation,
Gragg said. Have “reality checks” by
talking to others and learn about re
sources available to abuse victims.
“For people who believe a
friend might be abused, watch for
signs of isolation and persist in
trying to connect with them and
provide support,” Gragg said.
Help is available through the Uni
versity Counseling Center at 346
3227 and 346-4488, or at Women’s
Space at 485-6513 and Sexual As
sault Support Services at484-9791.
Today’s Events
Wednesday, May 19
m The Oregon Composers Forum
will present a variety of new music
by undergraduate composition stu
dents at 8 p.m. in Beall Concert Hall.
Admission is free. For more informa
tion, call 346-5678.
■ A Wellness Consortium Fitness
Walk will take place in recognition of
Oregon Fitness Day. Free water bot
tles for participants and a chance to
win a $150 one-year user pass for
the new Recreation and Fitness Cen
ter. EMU Amphitheater, noon.
m “Motivational Interviewing for
Change in Men Who Batter: Theory
and Conceptualization of a Random
ized Controlled Trial," a talk by Bar
bara Kistenmacher, psychology
graduate student. Presented by the
Center for the Study of Women in
Society, noon to 1 p.m., Room 330,
Hendricks Halt. For information call
346-5015.
■ Photojoumalist Susan Meiselas
gives a talk, “Covering War, Cross
ing Lines, Being Trusted," at 4 p.m.,
Church Memorial Reading Room,
Knight Library. For information, call
346-2134.
■ Dark Owen Trio (formerly New
Wedge Trio) wilt present a modern
jazz performance at MusEvening!, 6
p.m., Museum of Art. For informa
tion, call 346-3027.
m Single Parent Social Gathering for
single parents. Children welcome,
Music and refreshments, 6 to 8 p.m.,
Community Center, Westmoreland
Family Housing, West 18th and
Arthur. Free, For information, call
346-2962.
■ Women in Transition Support
Group will meet noon to 1 p.m., EMU
Century Room E. The group wel
comes women who haven't taken
the traditional path of attending col
lege directly after high school, stu
dents with child care or elder care re
sponsibilities, transfer students,
graduate students and others. For
information, call Cheryl Welton, 346
4095.
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