rheV^cII Now p*gr 4 The Studrnt Hr»lih Cae trying to get across is a lot more com pie* wr should sjscnd sever aJ months « rooks and Baur in Human Sexuality suggest at least six) gelling to know prospective sexual part nets before engaging in high risk sexual behavion. I )nc way to bring up the subject is to talk to your partner or the person yen* ate dating about your concerns, not only concerns about HIV and AIDS. Ihii also sexually transmitted diseases You may l»e surprised; our society places such an emphasis on sex that people feel as though they arc expected to engage in sexual activities, when in reality, many people are not ready to do so When you start sharing your feelings and aspec ts of your sexual history, encourage your partner to do the same. I rust is a big factor If you're taking the time to get to know a person, you always have time to back away. And if your gut instinct is telling you "NO, listen to it I*sen if the (verson does have a sexual history that worries you. tests for most sexually trans mitted diseases show up quickly However, the tot for the antibodies that indicate HIV infection will usually show tcsults hetween three and six months. Hm means that if either one of you has engaged in any high risk activities, getting the test right away won't solve the problem In-cause it will be too wN>n to tell I he test i* laifIv quick and nm pic there is pie- and post testing with an HIV counselor, and a small amount of blood is token by the lab to be tested I his test is available at the Student Health ( cruet for a small fee if you are a student, or also at some area health depart ments such as NX httebird < lime (free) ansi lane ( mints Health fsnuil frri If partners get tested after the three to »u months, and they both test negative, tho are going to feel a lot better about sexual relations and the relationship as a whole. A test for rhe HIV' antilsodies d<*rs not test for other sexually transmitted diseases If there is any douht in either partners mind about other pos sihlc S IDs, get rested Some tips about talking about safer set from Huntjrt No udhty iru Jude I Start by discussing a safer subfcsr. for esam pic, why it u hard for people to talk about w* and 11IV'. etc As you cJiHim experience* tHat affected you in dealing with cental iwnn. it may make you both more comfortable going further in depth on thoce mptc * and othet. m«»rc pcrvonal topw v 2 Have a booklet 46 -1456, or just drop by. We’re next to the pharmacy. Taking precautions necessary to avoid AIDS By MtehrUt h*mcrttbi Kipem from the (« let for Pimmk: Control pmlkn that AIDS will lie ■ hr number one killer on college campuvcs jami the Untied State*. 11m mnni 'hr U of O u not rsdudrd Itom these Ullillia, and we, at students. mint «*kr (hr responsibility for learning about thu disease to prevent the rampant spreading of AIDS. Hunk about how many ttudenti are there on thn campus who not only come from Ore gon but alto from California. Washington, Idaho, the bast (.loan. Japan. China. Norway. (.Germany and all over the globe. Studying isn’t the only pastime students practice. Srsual activity is very common among many college students regardless of where they are from, and unprotected sea is the way the HIV virut spreads If you're srsiuily active with someone while you'te at the U of O, and you don't use anything to protect yourself, you are at risk of infection. Think about how many people you know who may be ictually active with some one here at the U of O. When vacation comet, thote tame people go back to their hometowns and may engage in unprotected tea with a pan partner of even with a new pinner After vacation these tame people come back to school and continue the relationship again with their partners at the U of O. If during any of thetr tnual contacts hack home, one of thetr partners had the HIV virus, these people have now brought this virut hack with them. Consequently, they run the risk of infecting many mote people at the U of O if they engage in unprotected tea. I’rcscntly there it no cure for AIDS, and there is no vaccine to protect you red f form the HIV virus. The safest protection against the virus is to abstain from sea and refuse to share needles if you do drugs. If you do have sex. make sure neither you nor your partner arc infected with the virus. Use a latex condom and spermicide and don't be afraid to talk to your partner about using protection. If yout partner doesn't bdieve in using con doms. then ask yourself whether you really want to be with someone who places such a k>w value on life. To learn more about the disease call the toll free NATIONAL AIDS HOTLINE I 800-342-AIDS. Your identity remains anony mous. and the person will answer any questions you ask and will give you current information about the virus. Conflict management skills create new possibilities for confrontations By Andrnt Idylar Are your tooinnuirs nuk mj; youi life J liv ing hell? Do you have problems ihu listing things *uh your pan* ncf ? If you arc having difficulty with these thing*, von arc not alone, (.on ferent perceptions each perton holdt At many people know. perception a not reality. The main reason lot the Mail ami escalation of conflicts it ilac very pet ception of conflict. " Hut perception at conflict can lie cithri an accurate or inaccurate perception." fillrv raplaint Ihc problem it that the perception it utually wronj; More than likely, one ■ Illis ami mnfronta lions can be proh lenutts. and i'lien dil ficuli lo discern for young adults Ajan l ilies', in his book Intcrptnonal Conflict Keiohiiion says, "Conflict is a process which is net ihri good not bad Inn which ha» element* and outcome* which may Ik nidged favorably, or unla vorabtv by tl*«*c participating in im eval uating it.* Conflict* may ime for many *pe cific reasons, which item bom the dif [K-ivin nuy he unsure where the other per son stands or it may he unclear to him/her what the other per son's point in. Sometimes, however, the point may be all too cleat. Often in out lives we come into different types of con Itonutions. Hiere air three distinct types of con Irontattom: win win, win lose and lose low IV wm-wm situation is an agree ment on territory or idea* which are neutral, such as de-siding what lime to meet Win lose confrontations are characterized by one person winning and the other losing without there being any misidle ground, i.c , a rase between two people 1 osc loac battles are con frontations in which neither side can fully win The challenging part of a conflict is to state the purpose of the discussion in a clear and concise manner which u not offensive to the other party When there is a breakdown! in communication and unwillingness between the parties to resolve these differences, mediation may become a viable alternative. ITiere ate places here on the Uni versity of Oregon campus which spe cialize mlielping to resolve conflicts lot students Among these are ASUO medi al ion. Student t egal Services. Uoun wlmg at the Student I lealth i dime. and die Housing l Vpartment for those who live in the Residence Halls and in f am ily Housing Information and resources for well-being ( ....tli. i k. ...Ini University Counseling Center 13th Street at Agate 346-3227 UO Crisis Center hotline 346-4488 24 hiuns a day Sesual Assault Support Servis.es 484 U of O Mediation Program I- MU Hoorn 318 346 4240 OfFise of Stuslent Advocacy KMU318 346-3722 Women's Rcwsune and Referral ( enter Suite 3 f MU 346 3327 OflRcc of Academic Advicing and Student Service* 164 Oregon Hall 346-3211 Career Planning and Placement 244 Hendricks Hall 346-3235 Center for Academic learning Services 6# PLC 346 3226 I I .if juim lit .iih! I >«m i iuiiM.il mu ( onicriiN Office of Affirmative Action 4""4 Oregon Hall 346-3123 Office of Public Safety Straub Hall 346-5444 Student Conduct Coordinator 364 t)regon Iiall 346-INI (oordinator Gay. I^tbiui. Bitcaual CjXKtrai '46 1142 lesbian Gay Bisexual Alliance 346- 3360 ijin i.»l < oiu i min Office of Student financial Aid 260 Oregon Hall 346-3221 Student fanployment Office 12 Hendricks Hall 346-3214 I'hkAUji \ilincnis Student Health ('enter 13th Street at Aeatc '46-4441 Health fducation Program 346-4436 ABSTINENCE uniary or an involuntary decision. 1 hough to Hunt people an is a muH in relationships and routine, an evi dent part of everyday life, it n not for all people. lack of opportunity for inter courie, period* of ferolity awareness, scaual dysfunction, aging, illness or injury can all force abstinence upon people because there arc no alterna tives, or because those alternatives are distasteful. Many healthy human CiUiHmtdfr»m p*gr 3 nets in a venial relationship cannot consistently be engaging in sex. If nothing more than physical activi ty holds the relationship together, it is bound to be doomed. d Choosing to refrain from sexual intercourse can bring renewed self esteem. time for yourself, carefree pleasure and a loving state of exis tence. Having NO sex can provide opportunity to discover new aspects about yourself. C hooting abstinence hemp arc truly rcxu ally free and adore abstinence. It's a lifestyle that Danny Wiest say*, "works for roe." Abstinence involves making a conscious decision NOT to engage in sexual intercourse. For some people this win cnaoic rou to tidy life up to that you can do the thingt you really want to do and pour your whole energy into them. Unfortunately, abatinence can po» tibly bring loneli neu or a feeling of being an outrider. Counseling services may include to without inwcounc. mutual masturbation and oral tea. Abstinence features balancing your cultural, personal and moral values and often demands mud) dedication and will power. To maintain a healthy relation ship. abstinence must be practiced from time to time by everyone Pan arc available at the University t Stu dent Health Center, the Counseling Center and other local counseling office*. Even though it is not the easiest choice to make, choosing abstinence is the most responsible decision you II ever make. The Well Now Staff 1 Hrevu* o( I Icakii hJutaiion joaruir I rank Pm I inliii AiKtunj; ( ooriimatur Anrur l XxhiuhJ tdmx* ofWdl Now Suun McAfcm Sainprram \npr \X indhrim Production Ingrid 'X'huc Snond 1 erm Pm HcJth Athriork Jenndirr Bovd. Mkhrtir I ramrkhi. l)amrilr (K>>fpev>fi. Mithclc Hanley. I aduiu kniantmiki, Ntwi Niiuk Wah Nap**. Oawrictlc Scalf. Amitr* Tjyiuf. loan IThhth I trv I rrm Pert I iraith Vhuon Iracy Anuthon. Kuixn IWv Katun l l>aru! wtng, l iiku (*oegr. kmu Haht. Mnfganr McCarthy. (»radv iVOm fKi I >4n Ponet. kaiicr Sandrll. Rrnre vhmxh. K«di Vtcmath I hr VPeti N«.m o 4 lK■*^ictt^T ifKtmurcd by the Student Health ( erect and pmthx.nl bv the Health I dixatmn vtaH wuh the 4*ut taixc of the (hrgm /W> l mnuiti All attxiei arc wttf ten hv uudrno hx the Health I Jut at kw Program