Wednesday, October 7, 2020 The Nugget Newspaper, Sisters, Oregon THE LODGE IN SISTERS is now Hiring for: Caregiver/Med Tech (PT/FT) Requires maturity and a responsible attitude and the ability to establish confidence in the residents regarding their care needs or administer medications and treatments. Wages DOE. NOC/Evening. $500 SIGN-ON BONUS. Culinary Assistant (PT) Responsible for quality of dining service during meals for the community. Wages DOE. Morning/Evening. Contact us @ 541-904-0545. Temporary Full-Time Volunteer Recruitment & Retention Coordinator Sisters-Camp Sherman Fire District is seeking qualified applicants for the position of Volunteer Recruitment & Retention Coordinator. View informational packet and application online at www.sistersfire.com/ employment/. Closes Monday, October 12 at 5 p.m. Bird Gard LLC, the world leader in electronic bird control, is seeking an experienced Purchasing Agent. Employment will be part-time or full-time and will be based in the company9s facility in Sisters. The ideal candidate will have excellent attention to detail, strong organizational skills and the ability to communicate well with vendors and fellow employees.( To apply please email info@birdgard.com to request a job application and formal job description. 803 Work Wanted Home Health Professional Strong medical, domestic, and personal care experience. Please call 541-420-0501. Commentary... Protecting your marriage in stressful times By Norene Gonsiewski, MSW, LCSW Guest Columnist By now, most of us real- ize that the pandemic is not going away anytime soon and that we aren9t past work- ing and schooling kids from home. Within our own lives there is much to be stressed about and when we turn on the news, it9s all doom and gloom. All this uncertainty is a recipe for relationship disaster. If you feel like you9ve been walking on eggshells around your part- ner, you9re not alone. It doesn9t have to be this way, though. You can even use this time to put your relationship first again. I know, you have little time to yourselves, but you can use it wisely. Happy couples are ones who reduce the stress and increase the connection. Turn off the news and listen to each other. In fact, make sure that every day you turn off all screens and spend at least 15 minutes checking in on how each of you is really doing. What do you appreciate about your partner? How is your mood? What are you grateful for in the midst of this mess? What are you learning about yourself right now in terms of your values, hopes and fears? There is so much to talk about right now in order to grow personally and as a couple. Partners who listen, empathize, and vali- date each other are more likely to feel less stressed during the pandemic. Deal with difficult Superior Escrow Execution Ultimate Service Stop by and visit with Tiana Van Landuyt & Shelley Marsh. 220 S. Pine St., Ste. 102 | 541-548-9180 issues constructively and in a timely manner. I imagine that there are very real issues you need to talk through. How will you han- dle the holidays? Is your money going to last? Can we keep this up? Respectful communication is the big- gest challenge for all cou- ples and under this enduring stress you may be shorter tempered. Don9t try to work through issues in the car, standing in the kitchen or in the middle of chores. Wait until you cool down and then sit down and take turns listening to each oth- er9s point of view. Listen to understand, not to respond. Remember that you married someone just as smart as you and that, if you listen, you can arrive at a win-win solution. Under great stress we want to blame some- one, but whatever small thing your partner did, you mustn9t take your stress out on them. Remember: getting to spend your time at home with a loved one is a privi- lege. There are plenty of people out there who live alone and are forced to spend these scary times without a shoulder to lean on. Take advantage of your situation and spend some quality time with your partner. Make the time to relax, play a game, do a project, watch a movie, play with the kids, get out- side, try a new pursuit like yoga or meditation 4 and don9t forget your physical connection. Intimacy and connection are the ultimate de-stressors. You are lucky to have a partner to lean on, and to kiss and caress. Laughter and humor are essential in staying happy and connected. One of the strongest contribu- tors to relationship happi- ness is being able to laugh together. The humor that makes a marriage happy includes laughter at jokes, funny situations, the kids9 and pets9 antics, and one this week’s Nugget insert! Ray’s Food Place Call 541-588-6245, for a free quote! 257 S. 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