Page 8A East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Tuesday, June 27, 2017 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Widower finds companionship, but isn’t ready for romance FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE Dear Abby: My wife died of It might also be a good idea for you cancer four years ago. She was my best to consult a grief therapist. Because if friend, and the pain of losing her was you do, it may make it easier for you more than I could cope with. I was in to move forward with your life. a fog for about two years, just going Dear Abby: Our friend’s adult through the motions. Eventually the children invited us to a birthday party fear of spending the next 20 to 30 years they were throwing for their parent alone drove me to try internet dating. I at a restaurant. As we were ordering, met some nice women and some very the server asked if the checks would Jeanne strange ones, but nothing came of it. Phillips be separate or couples. (This was our Then a year ago, an old friend first clue that we were expected to Advice introduced me to “Elaine.” We hit it pay for our dinner.) For us, it was no off immediately. We share the same problem, but an elderly couple had a interests and offbeat sense of humor, and I long discussion about how they would pay. have grown fond of her. She’s intelligent, When inviting guests to a party, is it proper kind and easy on the eyes. Our grown kids get to expect them to pay for their dinner? And if along very well. so, how should it be phrased in the invitation? Our mutual friend told me that Elaine said If no mention is made, how would one inquire she loves me and would be thrilled if I proposed as to how the bill is handled? — I guess to encourage me to the next level. My This has never come up before. Hosts problem is, I’m still in love with my late wife. (including us) have always picked up the tab. If Elaine one day tells me she loves me, — Caught Off Guard In Ohio how do I respond without hurting her feelings Dear Caught Off Guard: How embar- or making her withdraw? I can see myself rassing for that older couple, not to mention loving her in the future, but I am still silently your friend. mourning my wife. I don’t want to chase Unless it is discussed or agreed upon before- Elaine away, so please tell me what to do. — hand, a host is expected to pick up the check. New York Widower (That’s what “host” means.) If guests will be Dear Widower: You and Elaine appear to expected to pay for their own drinks (or meals), have a communication problem. You are both then the occasion is a “no host” gathering. That adults. If she has fallen in love with you, you the guests were expected to pay for their own shouldn’t have to hear it from a mutual friend. meal should not have been announced at the You owe it to her to have a frank talk with last minute; it should have been mentioned her because she needs to know that you don’t when the invitation was issued. intend to remarry until you are over the loss of As to how to ask who will be paying when your late wife. She may decide to stick it out you are invited out, please know that asking and wait or, as you say, decide to move on. But that question isn’t rude — particularly in light at least she’ll know what she’s dealing with. of what you experienced. DAYS GONE BY BEETLE BAILEY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY MORT WALKER BY JIM DAVIS 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian June 26-27, 1917 Fireworks such as have never been seen in eastern Oregon will mark the celebration of the Fourth of July in Pendleton next week. In addition to a realistic reproduction of the Battle of San Juan, there will be set pieces, aerial bombs, electric geysers, burning shells and a grand illumination. G.J Prescott of Port- land, to whom was given the contract for the fireworks, arrived this morning and completed arrangements with the general committee. The Battle of San Juan will be truly spectacular. Mr. Prescott is shipping his equipment here for building a hill 150 feet long. On this hill will be built a Spanish blockhouse and the battle will show soldiers charging up the hill in the face of the fire from the blockhouse. It will end with the tearing down of the Spanish flag and the raising of old Glory. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian June 26-27, 1967 Weston finds itself faced with a water shortage prompted by a sharp decline in the water level of the town’s well. The city council held an emergency meeting Friday and voted to put the community on tight water restrictions to try to help the situation. The restrictions are aimed at outside lawn and irrigation uses. All citizens who live on the north side of Main Street can water their lawns and irrigate on even numbered dates beginning today. Those living on the south side of Main Street can water on odd numbered dates beginning Tuesday. There will be no irrigating or watering lawns at night. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian June 26-27, 1992 It took Ivan Nicely four weeks to create a work of art that will stand for years in Pendleton as a reminder of the rugged fron- tier faced by Oregon Trail emigrants. Nicely placed his finishing touches today on the “Watchers on the Hill” mural he painted on Albertson’s north wall, directly across Court Avenue from the Round-Up Grounds. Nicely knew at first glance he wanted the chance to add artwork to Albertson’s wall. The location combines the best of all qualities — shade, location and surface. Nicely, who lives near Weston, has been an artist and illustrator for 30 years. BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 178th day of 2017. There are 187 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On June 27, 1957, Hurricane Audrey slammed into coastal Louisiana and Texas as a Category 4 storm; the official death toll from the storm was placed at 390, although a variety of state, federal and local sources have estimated the number of fatalities at between 400 and 600. On this date: In 1844, Mormon leader Joseph Smith and his brother, Hyrum, were killed by a mob in Carthage, Illinois. In 1864, Confederate forces repelled a frontal assault by Union troops in the Civil War Battle of Kennesaw Mountain in Georgia. In 1905, the Industrial Workers of the World was founded in Chicago. In 1922, the first Newberry Medal, recognizing excel- lence in children’s literature, was awarded to “The Story of Mankind” by Hendrik Willem van Loon. In 1944, during World War II, American forces liberated the French port of Cherbourg from the Germans. In 1974, President Richard Nixon opened an official visit to the Soviet Union. In 1977, the U.S. Supreme Court struck down state laws and bar association rules that prohibited lawyers from advertising their fees for routine services. In 1986, the International Court of Justice at The Hague ruled the United States had broken interna- tional law and violated the sovereignty of Nicaragua by aiding the contras. (The U.S. had already said it would not consider itself bound by the World Court decision.) In 1990, NASA announced that a flaw in the orbiting Hubble Space Telescope was preventing the instrument from achieving optimum focus. (The problem was traced to a mirror that had not been ground to exact specifications; corrective optics were later installed to fix the problem.) In 1991, Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall, the first black jurist to sit on the nation’s highest court, announced his retirement. (His departure led to the conten- tious nomination of Clarence Thomas to succeed him.) Today’s Birthdays: Business executive Ross Perot is 87. Former Interior Secretary Bruce Babbitt is 79. Singer-musician Bruce John- ston (The Beach Boys) is 75. Fashion designer Vera Wang is 68. Country singer Lorrie Morgan is 58. Writer-produc- er-director J.J. Abrams is 51. Sen. Kelly Ayotte, R-N.H., is 49. TV personality Jo Frost is 47. Actor Tobey Maguire is 42. (Punch Brothers) is 35. Reality TV star Khloe Kardashian is 33. Thought for Today: “A man, after he has brushed off the dust and chips of his life, will have left only the hard, clean question: Was it good or was it evil? Have I done well — or ill?” — John Steinbeck, American author (1902-1968). PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE